The Fly Goddess Obbsession

Soo im back....

2012-01-31T12:14:00.001-08:00

I miss blogging, so im back, patience while I get my page back together.

Im moving....

2010-09-27T14:07:00.000-07:00

I love blogger but my layout will not work so i have moved my blog too....

theflygoddess.wordpress.com
The Fly Goddess Obsession

Random Truths

2010-09-23T14:17:00.000-07:00

So i realized that what i am going through everyday is what everyone goes through. I feel in my twenties i searched for myself and enjoyed what experiences i thought i wanted to enjoy. i made goals to become the woman that i wanted to become. once i did those goals by my thirties i got married and had a child. But what i didnt realize that my goals and the things i wanted would change. it seems so obvious too me now but then when it was happening i was confused and depressed. why is what i planned not enough etc. etc. etc.

but talking and praying and meditating and reading i have found that this in normal and even if it was abnormal to someone else it was normal to me and my life.

It is amazing that you can find God/Goddess in every and anything even in the smallest detail. i at this exact second typing these words are at peace. Now the lesson is how to maintain it.

Strawberry Cupcakes from Mop Top Maven

2010-09-19T16:04:00.000-07:00

Recipe Ingredients:

2/3 cup whole fresh or frozen strawberries, thawed

1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour, sifted

1 teaspoon baking powder

1/4 teaspoon coarse salt

1/4 cup whole milk, room temperature

1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract

1/2 cup (1 stick) unsalted butter, room temperature

1 cup sugar

1 large egg, room temperature

2 large egg whites, room temperature

Directions:

Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Line a 12-cup muffin tin with cupcake liners; set aside.

Place strawberries in a small food processor; process until pureed. You should have about 1/3 cup of puree, add a few more strawberries if necessary or save any extra puree for frosting; set aside.

In a medium bowl, whisk together flour, baking powder, and salt; set aside. In a small bowl, mix together milk, vanilla, and strawberry puree; set aside.

In the bowl of an electric mixer fitted with the paddle attachment, cream butter on medium-high speed, until light and fluffy. Gradually add sugar and continue to beat until well combined and fluffy. Reduce the mixer speed to medium and slowly add egg and egg whites until just blended.

With the mixer on low, slowly add half the flour mixture; mix until just blended. Add the milk mixture; mix until just blended. Slowly add remaining flour mixture, scraping down sides of the bowl with a spatula, as necessary, until just blended.

Divide batter evenly among prepared muffin cups. Transfer muffin tin to oven and bake until tops are just dry to the touch, 22 to 25 minutes. Transfer muffin tin to a wire rack and let cupcakes cool completely in tin before icing.

Icing Ingredients:

Makes enough for 1 dozen cupcakes.

1/2 cup whole frozen strawberries, thawed

1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, firm and slightly cold

Pinch of coarse salt

3 1/2 cups confectioners' sugar, sifted

1/2 teaspoon pure vanilla extract

Directions:

Place strawberries in the bowl of a small food processor; process until pureed. In the bowl of an electric mixer fitted with the paddle attachment, beat together butter and salt on medium speed until light and fluffy. Reduce mixer speed and slowly add confectioners' sugar; beat until well combined. Add vanilla and 3 tablespoons strawberry puree (save any remaining strawberry puree for another use); mix until just blended. Do not overmix or frosting will incorporate too much air. Frosting consistency should be dense and creamy, like ice cream

Update

2010-09-19T15:42:00.000-07:00

I know i havent updated my blog in a while but i have been bust wrapping up the summer. I am going to start my 21 day fast tommorow and will try to update everyday or maybe weekly (which is more like).

Somebody tell me something Good

Body Obsession Lisa Raye McCoy

2010-09-10T09:45:00.000-07:00

this weeks motivation

54 affirmations celebrating your power

2010-09-09T07:42:00.001-07:00

With the start of the fast every morning i will seek communication spirit to spirit i will talk, recite my confession (42 laws of maat) and say these affirmations i will attempt to do this on a daily basis for the purpose of strengthening my relationship with my Father/Mother Creator and stregthening myself.

Sometimes it is good to have a few simple affirmations to tell yourself when things look bleak and when your spirit does not feel uplifted. The power of words are tremendous upon the body, the mind, and the soul, so I ask you all to read these words often...to have the will to do each one of these things well, and to not feel bad on the days that you don't. Just keep moving, keep striving, and keep reaching!

The will of a woman is a never ending list, it goes on and on, for the will of a woman is strong and affirming!

1.I will take care of myself

2.I will love my inner being

3.I will not doubt myself

4.I will go the extra mile

5.I will trust my first instinct

6.I will not fear failure

7.I will pamper myself

8.I will clean as I go
9.I will learn from my mistakes
10.I will not be afraid to ask for help
11.I will try new things
12.I will overcome my weakness
13.I will share my rewards

14.I will teach wisdom

15.I will create within my home
16.I will never stop looking for love
17.I will never stop giving love
18.I will not be afraid
19.I will never stop learning
20.I will say that I am beautiful
21.I will tell other women that they are beautiful
22.I will work through the pain
23.I will not hold regrets
24.I will get plenty of beauty sleep
25.I will no longer feel guilty
26.I will take care of my spirit
27.I will laugh until the end
28.I will write down my experiences
29.I will offer wise advice
30.I will exercise more than often
31.I will not store negative energy
32.I will not surround myself with negative people
33.I will love my natural beauty
34.I will not take everything so serious
35.I will listen carefully
36.I will explain myself eloquently
37.I will love my loved ones
38.I will explore many cultures
39.I will stand up for what I believe in
40.I will never feel worthless
41.I will never carry guilt
42.I will make time for me
43.I will nurture nature
44.I will accept change
45.I will give with no thought of receiving
46.I will drink plenty of water
47.I will make love intensely
48.I will not fear death

49.I will stay active

50.I will not procrastinate

51.I will never give up on my dreams

52.I will keep a to-do-list

53.I will not feel bad if I do not accomplish every task & goal

54.I will have the will to be me!

Random thoughts

2010-09-09T01:53:00.001-07:00

“With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”

Dear Myself

2010-09-08T23:23:00.000-07:00

I have been writing on this blog for a short time not knowing which direction to take and what to focus on. I have been using this as sort of a diary of things i found or information i want to keep with a place to always refer back to.

But now i have a direction and a new course i would like to take, i want someone to go along and share my experiences with. Recently i believed i wanted to be enlightened and brought into conciousness and though i know some wont understand i am going to take the path of knowledge of thyself "know thyself!"

I was laying in bed and one thought came into my concious, Religion is a man made separation of one spirit to another, and isnt that a sin. Sin to seperate onself from another becuase of a belief.

I have always believed in Christianity and that can not be uprooted but I have to open my eyes to who i really am. Because i have a vagina i am less than or not equal to a man. We call father God but where is Mother God. I am made in an image of God and he created me too, God is in me I am a Goddess. I must act accordingly.

When I pushed my son from my vagina it was the most eye opening experience of my life. I am powerful I am a healer a creator I am a Goddess.

For so long I took what people said about things without researching. But that is different it is time, My time to come into My truth!

When it came to find which direction do I go to find the information so many books and ideas come my way. Father/Mother God Creator will lead me.

First step: I must fast and cleanse my system. This is sooo hard for me to do but i must discipline my flesh. I am going to PHilly on the 15th to the 18th and then i will start my fast HARD.

Im looking for some true Woman to go with me. I am also following Sacred Woman by Queen Afua it is a very good book if someone would like to travel with me to enlightenment.

13 top contaminated fruits and veggies

2010-09-04T19:01:00.001-07:00

Buy these items Organic only

Peaches
Apples
Bell peppers
Celery
Nectarines
Cherries
Potatoes
Pears
Lettuce
Grapes
Strawberries
Tomatoes
Spinich

Grey Eyeshadow

2010-09-02T22:01:00.000-07:00

Im feeling that i wonder how that would look on my skin color!

French Toast Kebabs with blueberry sauce

2010-09-02T21:41:00.000-07:00

Ingredients

8 large eggs, lightly beaten

2/3 cup 1% buttermilk

Pinch of salt

1/4 teaspoon vanilla extract

1 loaf (one-pound) unsliced dense white bread (such as pullman), crusts removed and cut into 1-inch cubes

4 tablespoons unsalted butter

1/2 pint fresh blueberries

1/2 pint fresh raspberries

2 bananas, sliced

1 teaspoon confectioner's sugar

Blueberry sauce, for serving

Directions

1.Preheat oven to 250 degrees. Place a rimmed baking sheet in the oven to warm. In a medium bowl, whisk together eggs, buttermilk, salt, and vanilla. Stir in bread.

2.In a large saute pan set over medium heat, melt 2 tablespoons butter. Place half of the bread mixture in pan; cook, turning occasionally with tongs, until browned on all sides. To keep warm, transfer to the oven. Cook remaining bread in the remaining 2 tablespoons butter as before.

3.Thread bread cubes onto skewers alternating with blueberries, raspberries, and banana slices. Dust skewers lightly with confectioner's sugar. Serve drizzled with blueberry syrup.

Serves 4.

Ingredients

2 cups (two 5-ounce packages) blueberries

1/4 cup sugar

1 tablespoon fresh lemon juice

Blueberry Sauce
Directions
1.In a medium saucepan, combine blueberries with sugar and fresh lemon juice. Bring to a boil; reduce to a simmer, and cook until most of the berries have burst, 8 to 10 minutes.

Makes about 1-1/2 cups.

from yumsugar.com

A lesson in Sushi

2010-09-01T17:47:00.000-07:00

Rainbow Roll

Nori, rice, avocado, surimi, plus a variety of raw fish arranged on top

476 calories

16 g fat
33 g protein
6 g fiber
50 g carbohydrates

Higher in calories than most rolls you’ll find, but loaded as this is with substantial portions of myriad raw fish, most of those calories are the good kind. Rainbow rolls are typically large, so a single order and a bowl of miso soup make a filling dinner.

Nori, rice, cucumber

136 calories

0 g fat
6 g protein
3.5 g fiber
30 g carbohydrates

It’s hard to go wrong with cucumbers and seaweed. Though not a nutritional powerhouse, cucumbers are a low-calorie delivery system for vitamins A and C, fiber, and silica, a compound that has been shown to foster healthy skin.

Avocado Roll

Nori, rice, avocado

140 calories

5.5 g fat 
2 g protein 
6 g fiber 
28 g carbohydrates

Most of the calories in this vegetarian roll come from healthy monounsaturated fats. Avocado makes a great addition to any roll, since a sushi-size portion also contains about 3 grams of fiber.

Tuna Roll

Nori, rice, tuna

184 calories

2 g fat
24 g protein
3.5 g fiber
27 g carbohydrates

More than half of the calories in this simple, classic roll come from protein, making it a great light meal or a snack with substance.

California Roll

Nori, rice, avocado, surimi

255 calories

7 g fat
9 g protein
6 g fiber
38 g carbohydrates

The ubiquitous fusion roll is a great beginner’s foray into the potential of sushi, since there’s no raw fish involved. There are also no real healthy fats either (aside from the avocado, of course), since the fake crab (made from a variety of processed and compressed fish) has 1⁄15 the amount of omega-3s as the real stuff.

Spicy Tuna Roll
Nori, rice, tuna, mayo, chili sauce

290 calories

11 g fat
24 g protein
3.5 g fiber
26 g carbohydrates

In the world of sushi, “spicy” means a spoonful of mayo spiked with an Asian chili sauce. The calorie counts can climb higher than this, depending on how heavy a hand the sushi chef has with the spicy stuff. Either way, you’re better off satisfying your need for heat with a touch of wasabi.

Philadelphia Roll

Nori, rice, salmon, cream cheese, cucumber

290 calories

12 g fat (5 g saturated)
14 g protein
2 g fiber
28 g carbohydrates

Just like the mayo adds empty calories to an otherwise reliable spicy tuna roll, cream cheese blankets perfectly fine salmon and cucumber with an unnecessary measure of fat.

Salmon and Avocado Roll

Nori, rice, salmon, avocado

304 calories

8.5 g fat
13 g protein
6 g fiber
42 g carbohydrates

High in calories, but nearly all of those calories come from the one-two punch of healthy fats found in the salmon and the avocado.

Eel and Avocado Roll

Nori, rice, avocado, eel

372 calories

17 g fat
20 g protein
6 g fiber
31 g carbohydrates

Eel brings a solid helping of omega-3s to the sushi bar, but unfortunately, it’s almost always covered in a gloppy, sugary brown sauce that masks both the nutrition and the delicate natural flavor of this wily sea creature. If you opt for this roll, make it your only one of the night.

Shrimp Tempura Roll

Nori, rice, shrimp, tempura batter, oil for frying

508 calories

21 g fat
20 g protein
4.5 g fiber
64 g carbohydrates

Why take a perfectly good piece of lean shrimp and ruin it with thick batter and a hot oil bath? The joy of fried food—the crunch—is snuffed out by the moist rice, so this one doesn’t make sense from either a flavor or a nutritional perspective.

6 Foods for Healthy Skin

2010-08-17T13:31:00.001-07:00

1. SALMON

Salmon is an ideal food for many reasons, but as far as your skin’s concerned, there’s only one that matters: It’s among the world’s greatest sources of omega-3 fatty acids. Those are the essential fats that, along with bolstering the cognitive powers of your brain, concentrate in the walls of your epidermal cells to help lock in moisture. Plus, in one study, researchers supplemented two groups of mice with either omega-3 or omega-6 fats. After two weeks, the skin of the omega-3-fed group exhibited a 20 percent faster recovery rate from exposure to ultraviolet light. That gives salmon two crucial skin boons: keeping your skin from looking dry and helping it battle the dangers of excessive sunlight.
Other omega-3 foods: sardines, walnuts, flaxseed

2. CARROTS

Carrots are teeming with tiny orange pigments called beta-carotene, and when you ingest those pigments, you’re inviting them to nestle into your skin, fill in blotches, and give you a healthy glow. And what’s more, research shows that this can actually help prevent premature aging from sun damage. But is the accumulation of orange in your skin going to make you look like an extra from Jersey Shore? Well, hopefully not. But eating excessive loads of carotene-rich foods can lead to a condition called carotenosis, wherein your skin stops looking healthy and starts looking, well, orange. But the conditions is rare, so unless you notice yourself turning into a prison jumpsuit, feel free to chow down.

Other beta-carotene foods: sweet potatoes, red bell peppers, red grapefruit

3. AVOCADO

One study published by The Journal of the American College of Nutrition found that people with higher intakes of olive oil had fewer wrinkles than people with higher intakes of butter. The reason: Butter is loaded with saturated fat, while olive oil is rich in monounsaturates, the same essential fats that make up more than 50% of the calories in an avocado. So why eat avocado over olive oil? Both are good, but avocados have the added bonus of B vitamins, which also help to keep your skin looking vibrant and smooth.

Other monounsaturated-fat foods: olive oil, almonds, peanut butter

4. BEANS

Legumes, to be more precise. This is the class of plants that includes black beans, chickpeas, lentils, soybeans, and peanuts. And how do these puny pods protect your face? By smoothing out wrinkles. Australian researchers analyzed the diets of more than 400 elderly men and women and found that high intakes of legumes—alongside vegetables and healthy fats—resulted in 20% fewer wrinkles over time. The effect is likely a result of isoflavones—potent antioxidants—concentrated in the beans.

Other isoflavone-rich foods: alfalfa, tempeh, tofu

5. GRAPES

Besides providing protection from heart attack and stroke, antioxidants called polyphenols found in grapes can also help keep middle-aged skin from sagging. That’s because polyphenols improve skin’s elasticity by strengthening collagen, the primary protein in skin’s innermost layer.

Other polyphenol-rich foods: grape juice, blueberries

6. WATER

Okay, it’s not as fun to drink as wine, but water is the strongest weapon you have against lifeless skin. That’s why they call it “moisturizing”—because you’re trying to lock moisture, aka water, into your skin. To put it broadly, all the body’s processes rely on hydration, so if you’re not sipping throughout the day, you’re likely to have a slower metabolism, groggier head, and, yes, drier skin. One study suggested that it takes a mere half-liter of water to create a measurable increase in the capillary blood flow to your body’s outer layer. That’s just over 16 ounces. Try doing that a few times a day and you’ll have a face like a baby’s bottom in no time.
Other water-rich foods: watermelon, peaches, celery

Pineapple, Mango, and Jalapeno Salsa

2010-08-17T13:29:00.000-07:00

Pineapple, Mango, and Jalapeno Salsa
From Sarah Kerr
Ingredients

1/2 pineapple, cut into 1/4 inch cubes
1 mango, cut into 1/4 inch cubes
1-2 medium green jalapenos (adjust heat amount to your personal taste), small dice
1 1/2-2 small red onions, small dice
1 red bell pepper, small dice
2-3 large tomatoes, small dice
2-3 ripe but firm avocados, diced
1/2 bunch cilantro, rinsed and chopped
salt and freshly ground black pepper

Directions

Combine all of the ingredients in a large bowl. Mix gently to avoid mashing the avocados and fruit. Add salt and pepper to taste.
Refrigerate to chill the salsa. The acidic juice from the pineapple will keep all the ingredients fresh and colorful. Serve with tortilla chips or pita chips.
Makes about 4 cups.

Liquid Valium

2010-08-17T13:27:00.000-07:00

1 part Bourbon
1 part Peach Schnapps
Splash Cranberry Juice
Splash Orange Juice

Combine all ingredients in cocktail shaker with ice. Shake to blend and chill. Strain into chilled cocktail glass, two shot glasses or in a rocks glass over fresh ice.

Time to change my bedroom

2010-08-06T03:31:00.000-07:00

Since i have to stay in the house one more year i am going to redecorate my rooms or i will go insane. i have to merge my modern love for his traditional sense. Here are some of my inspirations. i am feeling beiges heavy covers and very soft plush fabrics and heavy curtains.

Body Shaper

2010-08-03T21:38:00.000-07:00

I will admit it.... I am 32 and I need a body shaper. I remember back in the day, okay i dont remember, but i saw in movies and heard my grandmother talk about those times. That woman had style and a sort of sophisticated fashion sense. They wore slips, gurdles, and undergarments.

Well my problem areas are my tummy. i am a slim athletic built person and when extra weight comes it comes to my mid section and rear end (which I have no complaints there). any way i have found a few items that i am going to have to purchase.

SPANX: Hide & Sleek Body Smoothing Camisole Smoothes the midriff, with a double layer along the bust for support. The search for the perfect undershirt is over. The SPANX® Hide & Sleek Body Smoothing Cami offers coverage from sheer fabrics and tummy slimming all at once. $42.00

Style #050

Light body-shaping camisole

Constructed of moisture-wicking microfiber

Double layer compression starts below the bust

Smoothes and firms the midriff

Creates a smooth line underneath your clothing

Higher back to avoid visible lumps or bulges

Slick yarns won’t cling to clothes

Lightweight stitching on straps for comfort

Tucks into pants and skirts for an invisible look

SPANX: Hide & Sleek Hi-Rise Panty $42.00

Firm smoothing all the way up to the bra line! Smooth, seam-free fabric and nonbinding leg for a perfect silhouette under clothes. Ultra-sleek, soft fabric provides double layer compression to smooth and firm.

Style #140

Full coverage, high-waisted brief

Shimmering, stretch microfiber

Provides light control

Double layer compression smoothes tummy and rear

Moisture-wicking fabric for a cool, dry feel

Silicone elastic waistband maximizes comfort

Creates a smooth line underneath your clothing

No visible panty lines

Cotton gusset

Tagless for comfort

Corselette Latex Body Shaper $72.00

Va Bien: Ultra-Lift Low Plunge Body Briefer. $80.00 Give your bust a boost and your tummy a tuck with this low-back, firm-control shaper. Patented Ultra-Lift underwire cups enhance cleavage. It even comes equipped with convertible bra straps!

Style #1500

Firm control, low back body shaper

Shimmery microfiber

Sheer mesh detail on front

Patented Ultra-Lift boned cups for shape and support

Side boning provides additional shaping

Double-lined front panel for extra tummy control

Converts to criss-cross or halter

Satin bow on plunging neckline

Fully adjustable straps

Cotton panel

Convenient hook and eye gusset

No closure - step into it like a bathing suit

European cup sizes. See size chart for U.S. conversion.

Flexees: Fat-Free Dressing Boyshorts $26.00

Style #3017

Firm control boyshorts

Stretch nylon

Tummy flattening hidden panel

Cotton gusset

Covered elastic waistband

All of these things can be purchased at barenecessities.

P.S. you know what is funny that all of these models are skinny and they do not need a damn shaper

Workout for six pack abs

2010-07-30T06:29:00.000-07:00

Peach Margarita

2010-07-24T08:29:00.001-07:00

Ingredients

2 parts silver tequila

1 lime, juiced

1 1/2 parts peach schnapps

1/4 cup white peach puree

Ice

Directions

1.Fill a cocktail shaker 1/2 of the way with ice. Add all of the ingredients. Shake hard to combine.

2.Strain into a margarita glass filled with fresh ice. Enjoy

My morning Elixer

2010-07-24T08:05:00.000-07:00

So from my previous post i had mentioned i am trying to find my beauty routine everything from vitamins, facial, hair, and body care, exercise and vitamins. anywho i also posted a morning smoothie recipe. true smoothies are good but a little thick for my taste. but to get too the point i went to a jamaican restaurant yesterday and they made homeade fruit punch so i decided to create that for my morning routine!

i took mixed frozen berries (strawberries, raspberries, blue berries, and blackberries), 100% apple juice, 1/2 lemon, a little spurlina powder, and maca powder. blender poured in glass and added a little more juice to liquify the consistency.

rave reviews from my family, next time i am going to add a little pineapple and peaches Yummy

Here are pics, Z liked it too.

spurlina has sooo many nutrients and minerals

maca gjves you energy, regulate your hormones, and raises your libido

Paloma

2010-07-22T14:47:00.000-07:00

Fill a tumbler with ice. Add 1 ounce silver tequila and 5 ounces grapefruit soda, such as Squirt. Garnish with a lime wedge. Makes 1 drink.

Dig It

2010-07-22T14:45:00.000-07:00

Listen to this

2010-07-20T07:58:00.000-07:00

Taalam Acey this is impressive

Nia Long Body Obsession

2010-07-19T10:55:00.000-07:00

i think she has timeless beauty and she has a beautiful body she is a true woman.

ladies let this motivate you

i like the fact that this is more realistic

Hello is any one out there....

2010-07-16T22:34:00.000-07:00

i came across a blog talking about Beauty Routines. OMG I dont have one is that weird woman in her 30's with out a routine maybe that is why i have so many problems with my skin and hair. It all goes back to me being non disciplined. anyway I want anyone who reads this blog to post a beauty routine PLEASE!

Hey Did you know

2010-07-16T13:37:00.000-07:00

You can read classics on line for free
check it out Bartleby

Happy Reading

Tips for Buying and Storing Summer Fruit

2010-07-16T10:08:00.000-07:00

STRAWBERRIES

How to Buy

Strawberries vary in size, shape, and color. Look for locally grown berries that are brightly colored and plump. They should have the green caps attached and be uniform in size. Avoid soft, shriveled, or moldy fruits. If the strawberries smell sweet, they will most likely taste sweet too.

How to Store

Sort and remove any bruised or damaged berries as soon as possible. Do not rinse fruits until you are ready to use them. Refrigerate strawberries in a tightly sealed container, preferably in a single layer on a paper towel, for two to three days.

RHUBARB

Rhubarb has long, thick stalks, similar to celery. There are two main types of rhubarb: hothouse, which is grown indoors and sold year-round, and field-grown, which has a bit more flavor and is available from April to July.

How to Buy

Rhubarb ranges in color from deep red to pinkish tinged with green. Choose crisp stalks that are about an inch wide, with no brown spots.

How to Store

Refrigerate in a plastic bag for up to one week.

How It’s Used

Because it’s very tart, rhubarb is always cooked with sugar (or other sweetener). It is often combined with red fruits, such as strawberries or raspberries, to enhance the color and complement the flavor.

How to Prepare

Rinse well, then trim the bottoms and tops. If there are any leaves, slice off and discard (they are toxic). If the stalks are stringy, remove with a small paring knife, as you would for celery.

PEACHES

How to Buy

July and August are prime time for peaches. Choose fruit with a fragrant aroma and flesh that yields a bit when pressed gently. If a peach has cuts or tan spots, or if it’s rock-hard or mushy, don’t buy it. Color has more to do with variety than ripeness. Peaches that are tinged with green, however, are usually underripe. For the best flavor, look for locally grown, tree-ripened peaches.

How to Ripen

Place peaches in a paper bag, with an apple, if you have one. Keep them at room temperature until they’re ready, and check them frequently.

How to Store

Ripe peaches are best eaten right away, but you can refrigerate them for three to five days.

BLUEBERRIES

How to Buy

You can find cultivated berries all year; wild (and locally grown) berries are available primarily during July and August. Wild blueberries are much smaller and often more intensely flavored than cultivated ones. The berries should be firm, uniform in size, and deep blue in color, with a silvery or white sheen. Avoid any packages that appear stained or damp, as the fruit inside may be spoiled.

How to Store

Remove any twigs or leaves along with any berries that are soft or moldy. Refrigerate in the original container up to five days. When you’re ready to use them, rinse berries under cold water; drain and pat dry.

How to Freeze

Spread rinsed and dried berries on a rimmed baking sheet; freeze until firm, one hour. Transfer to resealable plastic bags (label and date); store up to six months.

PLUMS

Plums are cultivated in temperate regions all around the world. They come in a wide range of sizes, colors, and tastes; more than 100 varieties are sold in the United States alone. Most types of plums are grown for eating out of hand. Others, selected for their high level of sugar, are cultivated to be dried; they’re then called dried plums or prunes.

How to Buy

Domestic plums are crimson to black-red with a yellow or reddish flesh; they are in season May through October. European varieties, which peak during the fall months, range from green to blue to purple and have a golden yellow flesh. Look for plums that are even in color and plump, yielding gently to pressure. Stay away from fruit with wrinkled or broken skin or extremely soft spots.

How to Ripen

If too firm to use, place in a closed paper bag at room temperature for one to two days.

How to Store

Once ripe, plums can be kept in a plastic bag in the refrigerator up to three days.

MELONS

How to Buy

Look for those that are fragrant and heavy. Press end opposite stem to feel for a bit of give. For watermelon: Avoid those with flat sides. Presliced, it should be deep red with about an inch of white rind.

How to Store

Store whole melons in a cool spot or, if cut, in the refrigerator.

Source: Martha Stewart. View the article on MarthaStewart.com

I want to look like this

2010-07-16T09:32:00.000-07:00

you dig

2010-07-16T09:25:00.000-07:00

you dig i luv it is only 18.00 from SLEEK

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Twist Bangle for 19.00

big "O" wooden earrings

17.00

check em out

How to Get The Butt You Want

2010-07-15T07:14:00.000-07:00

Do this fast workout to get a firm butt, flat abs, and toned thighs. Get started with three sets of this workout, twice a week.

Brazilian Butt Sculpter

What you’ll need: A pair of 3- to 5-pound dumbbells and a stability ball.

Targets: Shoulders, triceps, abs, glutes, legs
•Lie facedown on ball with palms on floor, abs engaged, back flat, legs extended 3 feet apart and toes on floor.

•Squeeze glutes to lift legs as high as you can.

•Hold up for 1 count, then bring feet together.

•Separate legs; lower. Do 15 reps

Ball Run

Targets: Biceps, glutes, abs, quads

•Sit on ball with back straight, abs engaged, feet on floor and a dumbbell in each hand, elbows bent, palms in.

•Keeping upper body still and right knee bent, lift right foot 6 inches while swinging left arm forward and right arm back (as if running).

•Return to start. Switch sides; repeat. Do 20 reps, alternating sides.\

Crossover Squat

Targets: Obliques, glutes, legs

a. Stand with feet shoulder-width apart, abs engaged, hands behind head, elbows out. Squat.

Curtsy Lunge/Lateral Raise

Targets: Shoulders, abs, obliques, hips, glutes, legs

a. Stand with feet hip-width apart, a dumbbell in right hand, right arm by side, left hand on hip. Lunge left leg back behind right leg.

Glute Swoop

Targets: Abs, glutes, legs

•Stand with feet hip-width apart, knees slightly bent, arms extended in front of you at shoulder level.

•Keeping back flat and abs engaged, hinge forward from hips and slide right leg back, toes pointed out.

•Lift right leg as high as you can.

•Curl right foot toward butt; release.

•Return to start. Do 15 reps. Switch legs; repeat.

Smoothies 101

2010-07-13T10:54:00.000-07:00

There IS a delicious way of getting your daily dose of vitamins and minerals.
The answer? Smoothies.

They are tasty and nutritious drinks that you can make at home and enjoy at any time of the day. With smoothies, it is easy to have that “5 a day” servings of fruits and vegetables.

Anatomy of a Smoothie
Did you know that on average a 20-oz serving of strawberry smoothie only has 155 calories? From the strawberries alone you get 2 grams of fiber. Add a few more ingredients such as flax seeds or a few slices of banana and you’ll have a high-fiber, low-calorie snack. That’s not all. Drink smoothie with your dinner and you’ll make the most out of your meal.

Here are the health benefits you can get from smoothies:

Fiber which improves digestion
Calcium which leads to stronger bones
Vitamins and minerals significantly reduce the risk of cardiovascular diseases and cancer
Anti-oxidants which prevent aging and strengthen the immune system
Nutrients that increase stamina and improve overall health
And the list goes on…

The amount of nutrition you can get from smoothies can potentially exceed the ones you get from solid food.

Use Proteins to Make Smoothies into a Complete Meal
Sources of protein like yogurt, cottage cheese, or tofu both thicken and bulk up the nutritional component of a smoothie. These ingredients can be a key to satisfying hunger. Smooth and soft tofu works best and is easiest to blend. For dairy eaters, there’s the old classic: yogurt, but cottage cheese also whips up into a very nice smoothie base. Sweetened yogurt can eliminated the need for additional sweeteners.

Protein/Thickener Options: yogurt, tofu, cottage cheese, and more

Fruit Makes the Smoothie Fun
High in vitamins and natural sweetness, flavor combination possibilities are endless when incorporating fruit into smoothies. Frozen fruit gives smoothies nice ice cream consistency and can be used instead of ice to make smoothies cold. Using frozen fruit also makes incorporating exotic or out-of-season fruits easier

Be wary of seeds and textures when adding fruit. Skins on pears or peaches and seeds in blackberries or raspberries are not necessarily bad, but they do affect the texture and may not pass through all straws or sippy cups used by children. Generally, juicier fruits are a better choice than fruits like apples. Bananas work well as an alternative to thickening smoothies with proteins. Very fibrous fruits can clog blenders and make for a fibrous smoothie.

Fruit Options: bananas, strawberries, mangoes, peaches, blueberries, papaya, or other favorite fruits

Smoothie Liquids Ease Blending
No need to get fancy with liquids. Water works just fine. Juices can be used in place of or in addition to other sweeteners. Milk or soymilk provide added protein. Alternative milk beverages add flavor.

Liquid Options: water, juice, soymilk, ricemilk, almond milk, hemp milk, cow's milk.

A Spoonful of Sugar Helps the Smoothie Go Down
But, don’t use granulated sugar, it does not dissolve well in cold liquids. Liquid sweeteners like honey, agave syrup or even maple syrup work great.

Sweetener options: honey, agave syrup, brown rice syrup, maple syrup.

Extras Can Boost Nutritional Value and Flavor
The list of possible extras at the average smoothie restaurant is quite long but vitamin powders and protein powders are common. Vitamin powers like Emergen-C come in a variety of flavors that can help mask a sharp or strong green. Protein powders from whey or soy are available in most natural food stores.

Smoothie Making Instructions
Add ingredients to blender in order presented, holding back at least half the liquid. Add additional liquid as needed to ease blending or reach desired consistency. Pour. Enjoy.

Lemon Raspberry Smoothie
1 cup lemon yogurt
1 cup raspberries, fresh or frozen
½ cup lemonade
2 cups ice cubes
Combine all ingredients in blender and mix until smooth.

Banana Strawberry Smoothie
1 cup vanilla yogurt
½ banana sliced
4-5 strawberries, hulled and cut in half
2 cups ice cubes
Combine all ingredients in a blender and mix until smooth

Berry of Youth Smoothie Recipe

1 cup low-fat cherry yogurt or yogurt of your choice
1 cup pitted cherries (frozen preferred)
1/4 cup cold cranberry juice
1 cup blueberries (frozen preferred)
Pour the cranberry juice in the blender first, then add the yogurt and the rest of the ingredients into the blender and blend until smooth.
Berry of Youth Smoothie Nutrition Facts (serving size – 1 cup)

Blackberry Apple Smoothie Recipe

1/2 cup of low-fat yogurt
3/4 cup of cold apple juice or juice of your choice
1 to 2 cups of blackberries depending on your taste (frozen)
1 medium size banana (sliced in smaller pieces)
Add ice cubes if needed
Put all the ingredients in your blender and blend until smooth, serves about 2 people.

Coconut Pineapple Smoothie Recipe

1 fresh banana (frozen and sliced into smaller pieces)
1-1/2 cups fresh pineapple (diced)
1/2 cup light coconut milk (unsweetened)
1/2 cup fruit sorbet of your choice
Add ice cubes if needed
Put all the ingredients in your blender and blend until smooth, serves about 2 people

Get Juiced Smoothie Ingredients:

1 medium banana
1 cup of passion fruit
1 cup of pineapple juice
1 cup of frozen orange juice concentrate
1/4 cup of water
1 cup of ice
Squirt of lime juice (optional)

recipes from http://www.smoothieweb.com/

Breaking Habits that Block Blessings

2010-07-12T13:18:00.000-07:00

Mikki Taylor

Editor-at-Large for ESSENCE

Founder of Mikki Taylor Enterprises,LLC

"Stop in the Name of Love"

***** I copied this post from someone else********

Breaking Habits That Block Blessings

When I tell you she spoke so well..

like she inspired me to keep moving in my life regardless

of what people my say about me..

Notes from the Event:

1. Know Your Value

"Work is what you do, not who you are"

"The Beauty you possess is more than skin deep" Mikki Taylor

2. Be on purpose

"Our purpose is to be with God"

3. Do not conduct yourself according to men standards

"stay focused on the manual (the bible)"

Phillippians 4:13

4. Keep your head on straight

Phil. 3:13-14

Rom. 5:3-4

1Pet. 1:7

5. Commune with God and not your challenges

Heb.13:6

Psal. 91.1-2

6. Take your quest from the right resources

Psal. 1:1

7. Build up your spiritual muscle

"no test, no testimony"

"pain is weakness,leading the body"

8. Wait on the Lord

Psal. 25:4

9. Do not let Satan bait on you

James 1:19

1Chro. 16:22

Pro. 25:28

10. Be Strong in the Lord and the power of his might

Dig it

2010-07-11T20:08:00.000-07:00

Dig it

2010-07-11T19:15:00.000-07:00

Easiest Roast Chicken in a Cast Iron Skillet

2010-07-11T11:08:00.000-07:00

Ingredients

one 3- to 3.5-pound chicken
1 tablespoon kosher salt
coarsely ground black pepper, to taste

Directions

Place your oven rack in the lower third of the oven and preheat to 450 degrees.
Get yourself a good chicken — 3 to 3.5 pounds is ideal — and rinse it inside and out under cold running water. Using paper towels, dry the bird thoroughly inside and out. The chicken must be bone dry or it will steam rather than brown.
Set it in a cast-iron skillet and generously season it with 1 tablespoon kosher salt and coarsely ground black pepper to taste.
Place the skillet in the preheated oven and go about your business.
For doneness: Slit underside of thigh — juices must run clear (about 45 minutes). The high heat turns the chicken a golden brown, and it's juicy as hell.
Serves 4.

Dear God

2010-07-10T05:21:00.000-07:00

I dont know why i always come to this point, trusting others more than trusting in you. I have protected myself thus far but i believed in this person. According to your word I am suppose to follow him whole heartedly. Submitt and follow, but what if the person i follow doesn't love me like Christ loves the church. Or maybe he does love me to the best of His ability but it is not enough for me.

Our goals and how we deal with life, situations, and children are all different than what or how i deal with them or how we originally talked about. How do we compromise when a situation is uncompromisable. How come woman always have to compromise and be the bigger person with more common sense. You sent a messenger that revealed to me that I am a helpmate and that was our divine gift. But who or what is suppose to relieve my stress when i dont have the strength to help.

I remember older and wiser woman telling me dont let the left hand know what the right hand is doing and always stash something for a rainy day NO ONE knows about. I fail to take head to these precious words, I was sooo tired and worn out i needed a break for about a year, free from wory, work and responsibility. Because of that i am now in this ridiculous situation of let down feelings that can or may turn in to bitterness or resentment. But the year has gone and passed and I need to get back on my grind.

Please lord help this goddess focus.

coffee filter uses

2010-07-09T19:36:00.000-07:00

Coffee filters ..who knew!
And you can buy 1,000 at the Dollar Tree
for almost nothing.

1. Cover bowls or dishes when cooking in the microwave.
Coffee filters make excellent covers.

2. Clean windows and mirrors.
Coffee filters are lint-free so they'll leave windows sparkling.

3. Protect China.
Separate your good dishes by putting a coffee filter between each dish.

4. Filter broken cork from wine.
If you break the cork when opening a wine bottle, filter the wine through a coffee filter.

5. Protect a cast-iron skillet.
Place a coffee filter in the skillet to absorb moisture and prevent rust.

6. Apply shoe polish.
Ball up a lint-free coffee filter.

7. Recycle frying oil.
After frying, strain oil through a sieve lined with a coffee filter.

8. Weigh chopped foods.
Place chopped ingredients in a coffee filter on a kitchen scale.

9. Hold tacos.
Coffee filters make convenient wrappers for messy foods.

10. Stop the soil from leaking out of a plant pot.
Line a plant pot with a coffee filter to prevent the soil from going through the drainage holes.

11. Prevent a Popsicle from dripping.
Poke one or two holes as needed in a coffee filter.

12. Do you think we used expensive strips to wax eyebrows?
Use strips of coffee filters.

13. Put a few in a plate and put your fried bacon,
French fries, chicken fingers, etc on them. Soaks out all the grease.

14. Keep in the bathroom.
They make great "razor nick fixers."

Best Products from Naturallycurly.com

2010-07-03T21:16:00.000-07:00

•Best Cleanser - JessiCurl Hair Cleansing Cream

•Best Daily Conditioner - Herbal Essences Hello Hydration

•Best Leave In Conditioner - Kinky Kurly Knot Today

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healthy and easy crab salad

2010-07-03T06:10:00.000-07:00

& Easy Crab Salad
Elie Kruger The Food You Crave
I stumbled upon this easy crab salad while flipping through Ellie Krieger's cookbook The Food You Crave. If you don't already own this book I suggest you snag one for your cookbook collection. It's full of awesome recipes that are lighter and healthier, yet oh so yummy.

Ingredients

For the Salad
1/2 pound lump crab meat, picked over for shells and cartilage
1 stalk celery, finely diced (1/4 cup)
1/2 cup peeled and finely diced ripe mango
1/4 cup thinly sliced scallions
2 tablespoons coarsely chopped cilantro
1/4 cup coarsely chopped radicchio

For the Dressing
2 tablespoons fresh lime juice
1 teaspoon finely grated lime zest
1/4 teaspoon salt
1/8 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
1/2 teaspoon red pepper flakes
2 tablespoons olive oil

Directions
In a medium sized bowl, gently toss together the crab with the celery, mango, scallions, cilantro and radicchio. For the dressing, in a small bowl whisk together the lime juice, lime zest, salt, pepper and red pepper flakes. Next, slowly whisk in the olive oil until an emulsion begins. Add the dressing to the salad and gently toss to combine

Bre Scullark my hair inspiration

2010-06-27T10:25:00.000-07:00

30 Ways To Be Happy, Healthy, and Wise

2010-06-27T09:09:00.000-07:00

Copied this from someone's blog and they got this from Essence Magazine. Thought this will help everyone
in thier lives.

I maintain a healthy weight with little effort
My retirement is secure.
I have enough wealth to pass on.
I have found my soul mate, who cherishes me.
I embrace and enjoy my sexuality.
I relish adventures and special moments.
I love my work; it enriches others.
I own a successful business.
I take care of my body, and it takes care of me.
I radiate health, thanks to natural foods.
I am learning all that I need to know.
My credit is excellent, and I am debt-free.
I am free of drugs and nicotine.
I am free of drama, pain and regret.
I drink moderately in good spirits, or not at all.
I've got stamina, thanks to regular activity.
I work out to keep my body strong and supple.
I forgive all who have hurt or betrayed me.
I own a beautiful and love-filled home.
I have rainy-day funds, insurance and a will (legalzoom.com).
I sleep peacefully and awaken energized.
I embrace new experiences.
I look good and receive compliments daily.
My family and friends love and nourish me.
My neighbors and I look out for one another.
My time and talents strengthen others.
Within my village, I am raising a child.
I make a difference in this world.
I am protected and blessed.
I love my life.

Are any of you down for this challenge? Let me know!

Margarita

2010-06-27T09:04:00.000-07:00

Margarita
From Scott Baird of 15 Romolo
Ingredients

salt
lime wedge
3/4 ounce fresh-squeezed lime juice
1 ounce orange liquor (I used Combier)
2 ounces silver tequila (I used Corzo)

Directions

Pour salt onto a shallow plate or bowl. Wet the rim of a glass with the lime wedge. Dip into the salt. Fill the glass with ice.
Combine the lime juice, orange liquor, and tequila in a cocktail shaker. Fill with ice and shake hard for 45 seconds.
Strain into the prepared salt-rimmed glass and enjoy!
Makes 1 drink.

Pomegranate Mango Guacamole

2010-06-23T05:37:00.000-07:00

Pomegranate Mango Guacamole
From Gourmet
Ingredients

3 ripe avocados
1/2 white onion, finely chopped
1 serrano chili, finely chopped, including seeds
1 lime, juiced
1/2 cup pomegranate seeds
3/4 cup diced peeled mango
1/2 cup chopped cilantro
1 1/4 teaspoon coarse salt

Directions

Cut the mango in half lengthwise. With a small sharp knife score the flesh both horizontally and vertically. Pushing on the skin of the mango, flip it inside out and cut off the flesh from the skin.

To remove the pomegranate seeds, cut the pomegranate in half and submerge in a large bowl of water then gently peel to remove all of the seeds.
Halve, pit, and peel avocados. Coarsely mash in a bowl. Stir in onion, chiles, 1/4 cup lime juice, and 1 1/4 teaspoons salt, then fold in pomegranate seeds, mango, and cilantro. Season with salt and additional lime juice.

2010-06-20T13:12:00.001-07:00

Let your food be your medicine and your medicine be your food

My Daily Prayer

2010-06-20T13:01:00.000-07:00

Dear Father,

Please forgive me father for I have sinned. I have ingested unnatural food i have indulged in to much alcohal and not taken care of my body as you have commanded. Father my focus is off I havent read your Word, haven't spoken with my spirit or in tongue. my self control is non existant. i havent been to church. i attempt to make decisions and choices on my own with asking and waiting for your direction.

i fight anger with anger i havent been a godly woman in the way i have handled situations.

today i am asking for your help to maintain self control, to clear my mind, focus on my god called position, maintain my queendom of a goddess, to look towards goodly things only, seperate me from the evil things and people.

To love unconditionally, to speak kindly, to read the word daily, to stay awake and be prepared for the time has come for your arrival.

i love you heavenly father

Hair Update

2010-06-18T23:42:00.000-07:00

i have a confession to make. I permed my hair and it was such a big mistake. so i have cut my hair off all over again. Not a short fro but like rihanna all short in the back and long in the front. i am going to transition my front out.

I feel such like a traitor. but what i do know is that short hair is just better for me i think it is more sexy but i still love my long hair sista's.

shout out to mop top maven.

i will post pics but i am so unphotogenic

Lost In Translation

2010-06-18T23:36:00.000-07:00

so for the past couple of days i turned my television off and just have been reading. reading mostly love stories. I dont know if it is because its my time of the month. but i hate television and am loving the peace and quiet.

the only real problem is i havent had a desire to pick up my bible. i bought a new one, read the bible in 90 days but i cant stay focused.

im in such a stand still rut. I have p90X and i havent even started it yet. havent read my bible, and havent put one foot over the other to just do what i need to do HO HUM

37 things to never apologize for

2010-06-18T15:20:00.000-07:00

1. Never apologize for acting on your instincts. Listening to your body – then taking action on what you hear – is the hallmark of heroic people.

2. Never apologize for all the tears you’ve cried. Crying cleanses the soul. Shoot for once a month. Even if it’s just a brief mist at a tender moment in a sad movie.

3. Never apologize for anything in your portfolio. If you feel the need to do so, it probably doesn’t belong in your portfolio in the first place.

4. Never apologize for asking for what you need. The answer to every question you DON’T ask is always no.

5. Never apologize for asking questions. When you stop asking questions, you don’t just run out of answers – you run out of hope.

6. Never apologize for asserting yourself. The word “assert” comes from the Latin asserere, which means, “to claim, maintain or affirm.” And that’s exactly what you’re entitled to: Your opinion. Your belief. Your say. Let nobody take it away from you.

7. Never apologize for being a health nut. Next time someone says, “What are you, on a diet or something?” look them straight in the eye and say, “Yeah – you got a problem with that?” Then, when they back down, you go right back to eating your tofu.

8. Never apologize for being a newbie. Everyone great chess master was once a beginner.

9. Never apologize for being early for an appointment. In the history of Corporate America, no employee has ever been fired for consistently arriving ten minutes early to every meeting.

10. Never apologize for being funny. The world is too damn serious. We need you. Seriously.

11. Never apologize for being human. Once you do, you’re no longer human – you’re a cyborg.

12. Never apologize for being passionate. Unless you’re passionate about stabbing strangers with broken Coke bottles.

13. Never apologize for being smart. That’s the ONE thing the government, the media (and every other entity that’s trying to control you) is terrified of: Smart people who take action. Be one of those people.

14. Never apologize for being the age that you are. It’s just a number. “A chicken ain’t nothing but a bird,” as my Grandpa likes to say.

15. Never apologize for breaking a rule that isn’t really a rule. Be proud of yourself for being a rule breaker. Then go break another one.

16. Never apologize for calling bullshit on someone. Especially when nobody else is the room is going to do it and this person REALLY needs to be taken to task.

17. Never apologize for demanding respect. If you’ve demonstrated that you deserve respect by giving it to others first, you’re good to go.

18. Never apologize for disagreeing. Especially if you do so respectfully. On the other hand, if you’re disagreeing for the sake of disagreeing, or because of your pathological need to be right, that’s a different story.

19. Never apologize for expressing yourself. That’s all “leadership” is: The full, free expression of your truth. Don’t say you’re sorry for that.

20. Never apologize for falling in love. Your heart’s calling the shots.

21. Never apologize for falling OUT of love. Your heart’s still calling the shots – even when you throw up an air ball.

22. Never apologize for getting something off your chest. That which you suppress will find a home in your body. And then it will trash the place.

23. Never apologize for giving it your best shot. As my Grandpa also reminds me, “You do the best you can with as many as you can.”

24. Never apologize for growing up privileged. As long as you scrap the entitlement attitude, remain grateful for everything you’ve ever been given and respect the life situation of those who are less fortunate, it’s all good.

25. Never apologize for having an overabundance of love in your life. Instead, circulate what you’ve got. Pay it forward. Share it. People need it. Especially St. Louis Rams fans. God we suck.

26. Never apologize for lack of experience. Instead, share your Learning Plan; demonstrate your dedication to lifelong learning and practice becoming the world’s expert at learning from your experiences.

27. Never apologize for lack of information. Ignorance is acceptable. Staying ignorant, however, is stupid.

28. Never apologize for liking stupid movies. Movie snobs annoy me. Some of my favorite movies are among the most ridiculous films ever made. So I love Road House. Sue me.

29. Never apologize for living your truth. Few things in the world are more important.

30. Never apologize for looking out for yourself. Self-preservation is a primary driver of human behavior. It’s how we’re wired.

31. Never apologize for loving yourself. If you do, you probably don’t love yourself as much as you thought.

32. Never apologize for making a decision from the heart. Remember: It’s not thee truth – it’s YOUR truth.

33. Never apologize for needing alone time. Solitude is soil. Solitude is medicine. And if you don’t get your fix every day, your life will suffer.

34. Never apologize for needing to use the bathroom. Yesterday a girl in my yoga class walked out of the room and actually said to the teacher, “I have to pee, I’m SO sorry.” Unbelievable.

35. Never apologize for not being there when someone called. You have a life, too. People can’t expect you to wait eagerly by the phone all hours of the day.

36. Never apologize for not embracing someone else’s agenda. Especially if that agenda robs you of your true talent.

37. Never apologize for occasional absentmindedness. Everyone’s brain farts.

Mint Julep

2010-06-12T16:22:00.000-07:00

Mint Juleps for a Crowd
Adapted from Essentially Lilly: A Guide to Colorful Entertaining by Lilly Pulitzer

Ingredients

4 cups sugar
2 cups water
1 ounce (1 bunch) mint leaves, plus another additional bunch, for serving
Kentucky bourbon, such as Maker's Mark
Crushed ice

Directions

Stir sugar and water in a heavy medium saucepan over medium heat until sugar dissolves. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat to simmer gently for 10 minutes. Place 1 ounce fresh mint leaves into large bowl; pour hot syrup over leaves. Let cool to room temperature, then cover and refrigerate overnight.
Using a slotted spoon, remove mint leaves from syrup and discard mint. Pour mint syrup into large pitcher. Cover and refrigerate until ready to serve.
Set out pitcher of mint syrup, bourbon, and crushed ice. Arrange additional mint sprigs in a bud vase with water to keep them fresh. Allow guests to assemble their own cocktails, adjusting measurements to suit their own preferences. In general, fill glasses with crushed ice and add approximately 1/4 cup bourbon and 2 tablespoons mint syrup, then add as many mint leaves as desired and stir to combine. Garnish with a sprig of mint and enjoy.
Serves 12.

Images

2010-06-11T22:51:00.000-07:00

Sooo me and my girls were talking about men of course. and recently boyfriends or husbands have opened there mouths and freely talked about their dislikes in a very hurtful manner. especially weight. anywhere from u r fat and I'm not attracted to u, too hey get that stomach together.

soooo how far do u go with the image of a perfect girl. meaning are u expected to look the same always? when you are told something like that do you be come obsessed or motivated to change?

Is she for real

2010-06-09T18:09:00.000-07:00

platinum blonde hair i think not

dig it

2010-06-08T22:03:00.001-07:00

Dig it

2010-06-08T21:52:00.000-07:00

25 Things you should know about Other People

2010-06-08T21:10:00.000-07:00

1. Most people hide their suffering better than you think, you pass dozens of people a day on the street without any idea how well they’re wearing their tragedies.

2. People’s names are the sweetest sounds they hear. You should make a point of being good at learning and using them.
3. People love to spread their misery around, but not as much as they enjoy being lifted out of it.

4. Being young is not in and of itself an achievement. Neither is being beautiful. But people often treat you as if they are.

5. For a lot of people, music is a reflection of who they are and their relationship to life. Remember that before insulting someone’s favorite band.

6. The Golden Age never existed. People are always trying to get back to a time when things were simpler and better. The world was a far more dangerous place fifty years ago, especially if you were black or a woman or gay or diagnosed with cancer.

7. Most people, whatever their choice of profession, feel like complete novices that are about to be found out as frauds and fakers.

8. Most people love quite helplessly, despite what they would have you believe.

9. Show me the most beautiful woman in the world, and I’ll show you a man who’s bored with taking her to bed. Show me the most devoted husband, and I’ll show you a woman who feels that he’s just not doing enough. A lot of people are never satisfied because…

10. Most people have no idea what they want out of life, let alone how to get it. Most others are still waiting for someone to give them permission.

11. Whatever it is about yourself that you’re trying to hide, it’s usually the first thing someone else notices about you.

12. You should call your mother and tell her you love her. Like most women who decide to marry and have children or help take care of a dying parent, she probably sacrificed a lot of her dreams to be there for you, and she wishes that you appreciated her more for it. Susan Boyle represented this demographic powerfully, but for every one of her, was a woman like your mother who will never get that standing ovation.

13. If you tell a man about your problems, he assumes you want some sort of help or advice. If you tell a woman about your problems, she assumes you simply want a shoulder to cry on. Women rarely want to be told what to do about a problem, and men rarely want to be coddled through a hard time.

14. Creative people thrive on feedback. You can never give them enough of it, and you will endear yourselves to them mightily if you do it frequently, thoughtfully, and honestly. They understand far better than most think, the value of time.

15. For most people religion is a social commitment more than a spiritual one.

16. A lot of people who consider themselves intelligent can’t properly label all the states on a map, or all the countries in Europe, let alone Africa or the Middle East. Most couldn’t list off the ten commandments, five pilars, or the amendments of the Constitution, and feel that politics are too complicated to bother with understanding, let alone talking about.

17. A lot of Christians have never, and will never, read the Bible. Most of them will conduct their lives exactly as they would if they’d never attended a single church service. It is nearly impossible to tell a Christian from an atheist by their actions alone. Both Christians and atheists will probably find the previous statement offensive.

18. For nearly every crazy idea, you can find a fully credentialed scientist who will back it up.

19. People are more frequently kind and compassionate than they are fooled by our manipulations or lies.

20. Life often works in reverse. People treat strangers more politely than their family or friends. People will ask a friend’s band to play their party for free, will call their best girlfriend to come over and cut their hair without a thought to payment, but would never dream of calling a mechanic they found in the phonebook and asking them to donate their time and labor to fix a broken down car.

21. Everyone has done something they would be desperately embarrassed for anyone else to know about.

22. Never joke with a man about his sexual performance, and never joke with a woman about her appearance. No matter how much they make fun of these things in themselves, never, never do it for them. They may laugh along with you, but you’ve just driven a tiny needle into their brain.

23. Most women get married because they want to have a wedding, most men get married because they are ready to settle down with a woman for the rest of their lives. Women, statistically speaking are more likely to suffer clinical depression if married, and initiate upwards of 80% of all divorces citing irreconcilable differences. People expect a significant other to change their lives and make them happy without any conception of how this change will take place. Sort of like assuming a college degree is going to guarantee you security in life without ever thinking of how this can be practically possible. I call this the “If you build it, they will come” approach to romance and one out of every two times it ends in divorce.

24. Most people are worried they’re not having as much fun as they should be. This usually makes men cheat and women nag.

25. When you insult or offend someone, always admit it and apologize promptly, even if it wasn’t your intention or you had no idea. It is always better to be a penitent villain than to appear so socially inept as to not recognize when you’ve hurt the people around you. An evil genius is someone to bring to your side, a blundering fool is someone to keep as far away from you as possible.

Coconut Lime Daiquairi

2010-06-08T21:09:00.000-07:00

Ingredients

1/2-ounce simple syrup, recipe follows

2 cups crushed ice, plus extra for chilling glass

2 ounces coconut rum

1-ounce freshly squeezed lime juice, strained of pulp

Directions

1.Make the simple syrup: Place 2 cups sugar and 1 cup water into a small saucepan over high heat. Bring to a boil. Decrease the heat to medium and cook, stirring occasionally, until the sugar is completely dissolved, approximately 3 to 5 minutes. Remove from the saucepan and allow to cool completely. Syrup can be stored in an airtight container in the refrigerator for up to a month. Makes 3 cups.

2.If your glass is not chilled, do so by placing some crushed ice in it and set it aside while you prepare the cocktail.

3.Place 2 cups of crushed ice into a cocktail shaker. Pour the coconut rum, lime juice, and simple syrup over the ice, cover, and shake well. Remove the ice from your serving glass and strain the drink into it. Serve immediately.

Makes one cocktail

Faithfulness and Monogomy

2010-06-05T09:58:00.000-07:00

So I was watching a movie on CoCo Chanel about the early years, and in the movie Chanel was in love with a married man. so i started thinking, even in the earliest years we can recall there was always a problem with monogamy.

is it unrealistic for us to be faithful? i am now married and though i see attractive people, i am completely satisfied sexually with my husband. matter of fact, i think dick is overrated. meaning in my 32 years on this earth i don't have to put added stress on my body for meaningless sex.

matter of fact i could be celibant if the situation presented itself (with the use of a toy). but the question is, am i being naive? does everyone cheat, and is it a matter of time before i think about cheating. are we just animals pretending to be civilized when it is convenient for us.

tell me what u think

ME

2010-06-05T08:58:00.000-07:00

TRYING OUT RED LIPSTICK

Fried Green Tomatoes

2010-06-03T12:14:00.000-07:00

Fried Green Tomatoes
From Katie Lee
Ingredients

1 cup cornmeal
1 cup all-purpose flour
1/2 tablespoon onion powder
1/2 tablespoon garlic powder
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
Pinch of cayenne pepper
4 large green tomatoes (like beefsteak, big boy, or celebrity), sliced 1/2-inch thick
1 cup buttermilk
1/2 cup vegetable oil
Remoulade
1 cup mayonnaise
3 tablespoons ketchup
2 tablespoons scallions, thinly sliced (about 1 scallion)
1 tablespoon apple cider vinegar
1 1/2 teaspoon dried mustard (like Coleman’s)
1 teaspoon hot sauce (like Tabasco), or to taste
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper

Directions

In a medium shallow bowl, mix cornmeal, flour, onion powder, garlic powder, salt, pepper, and cayenne. Fill a small shallow bowl with buttermilk. Place the bowls next to each other and next to the stove.
Heat the oil in a large heavy skillet (preferably cast iron) over medium-high heat. The oil should be hot but not smoking.
Dip the tomatoes in the buttermilk and then dredge in the cornmeal mixture. Fry the tomatoes, in batches if necessary, until the crust is golden brown and crunchy, about 4 to 5 minutes on each side. Drain on paper towels. Transfer the tomatoes to a serving plate and dollop some with remoulade or pass the remoulade alongside.
Serves 4-6.

Remoulade

Mix all ingredients together in a small bowl. Transfer to a serving bowl. Extra remoulade can be saved in the refrigerator in an air tight container for up to one week.

WHICH WOULD YOU RATHER?

2010-05-30T07:28:00.000-07:00

Lipstick or Lip gloss

Gloss

Heels or Kicks

Heels of course or maybe some really cute flats, but im not really into tennis shoes

Makeup or Natural

Makeup

My hair or store brought

My hair

Tyra walk or Naomi strut

Naomi strut

Pocket book or fanny pack

Pocket Book

Handmade or made in China (on the assembly line)

Both

Fashion forward or Disco Stu (being stuck in an era)

Fashion Forward

Door knockers or studs

Studs

Silver or gold

Both and Diamond and Pearls, skins and furs

5 Superfoods for Woman

2010-05-25T15:07:00.000-07:00

1. Papaya. This tropical fruit packs about twice the vitamin C of an orange. Add it to your arsenal against gallbladder disease, which afflicts twice as many women as men

2. Flaxseed. Bakers use this nutty-flavored seed mainly to add flavor and fiber. But scientists see the tiny reddish-brown seed, rich in estrogenlike compounds called lignans, as a potential weapon against breast cancer. An exciting report at last year's San Antonio Breast Cancer Symposium showed that adding flaxseed to the diet of women with breast cancer effectively slowed tumor growth. You can flavor your muffins with flaxseed, but the easiest way to get the beneficial lignans is to sprinkle a few tablespoons of ground flaxseed on your morning cereal. Look for the seeds in health food stores or in supermarkets on the flour aisle. They're easy to grind in a blender or coffee grinder. But get seeds -- there are no lignans in the oil.

3. Tofu. Foods high in soy protein can lower cholesterol and may minimize menopausal hot flashes and strengthen bone. Isoflavones, plant chemicals in soybeans that have a structure similar to estrogen, may be the reason. Though animal studies form the bulk of the evidence, a human study found that 90 mg of isoflavones was beneficial to bone (specifically the spine). And two other studies suggest that 50 to 76 mg of isoflavones a day may offer some relief from hot flashes. A half-cup of tofu contains about 25 to 35 mg of isoflavones.

4. Buffalo Meat. Due largely to menstruation, women tend to be anemic more than men. And low iron levels in blood can cause severe fatigue. To get a good dose of iron, try bison. Bison, or buffalo, meat is lean and has what diet-conscious women want -- lots of iron and less fat than most cuts of beef. "The iron content is about 3 milligrams in a 3 1/2-ounce uncooked portion," says Marty Marchello, Ph.D., at North Dakota State University. "That portion contains less than 3 grams of fat." Buffalo meat can help boost energy and lower weight. And you don't have to have a home on the range to get some bison anymore. You can pick it up at many supermarkets across the United States, or through mail order or on the Internet.

5. Collard Greens. This humble vegetable may help fight osteoporosis, which afflicts many women late in life. In addition to getting adequate amounts of calcium and vitamin D, some studies suggest that vitamin K may have a bone-protective effect as well. Based on data from one of the largest studies of women, the Nurses' Health Study, researchers discovered that women who ate enough vitamin K-rich foods (at least 109 micrograms of the vitamin daily) were 30 percent less likely to suffer a hip fracture during ten years of follow-up than women who ate less. Researchers point out that dark-green leafy vegetables -- Brussels sprouts, spinach, broccoli -- are all good sources of the vitamin. But collard greens, with about 375 micrograms per half-cup, are among the best.

dig it

2010-05-24T18:26:00.001-07:00

chanel bag

Compromises

2010-05-24T14:25:00.000-07:00

So i am going through it this week and i realized that i compromised a person for God, and i began to cry because it hurt me to hurt the one thing that loves me more than i love myself.

and i as i looked deeper into the situation, i realized how much i compromised myself for this person also. one thing i practice is keeping a very healthy self esteem. and it is continual work to keep that esteem up, it isn't something that you can do without work (at least for me.)

In my situation i attempted to remain true in the relationship (meaning more than just sexually) in all aspects. but when it is not reciprocated in the same way it is given, sometimes it is difficult to see which direction to take. During this time on the earth we place value on relationships and we see so much bullshit on television we really don't know what a good relationship means or what it takes to keep it going.

it is nice to have presents, and good sex, nice house and vehicle but in the end of the day can you love me and be there for me the way i can for you. So many people have been burned from the past relationships they have been in either they don't believe in true love or they don't know how to give love.

do you try to teach or let GOD reveal to them when it is their time to receive it.

i am writing random thoughts so sorry my mind is jumbled.

strawberry vodka cocktail

2010-05-23T19:49:00.000-07:00

if you love strawberries you'll definitely be a fan of this easy sipper. I combined vodka with lemon juice, muddled strawberries, and simple syrup. The whole thing is shaken and then strained into a chilled glass. It's a seasonal, slightly girlie drink that's delightfully balanced and ends up somewhere between too sweet and too potent. This strawberry vodka cocktail is just the thing to kick-start your weekend, so cheers! Grab a glass and get the recipe.

Strawberry Vodka Cocktail

Ingredients

3 strawberries, chopped
1 1/2 tablespoons Simple Syrup
2 ounces vodka
1 1/2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice
Ice
strawberry or lemon wheel, optional for garnish

Directions

Put the strawberries and simple syrup in the bottom of a cocktail shaker. Muddle well.
Add the vodka, lemon juice, and ice. Shake hard for 45 seconds and strain into a chilled martini, coupe, or old-fashioned glass.
If desired, garnish with a strawberry and lemon wheel. Enjoy immediately!

Makes 1 drink.

from yum shuga

Salsa

2010-05-21T09:30:00.000-07:00

Ingredients

1 can (28 Ounce) Whole Tomatoes With Juice

2 cans (10 Ounce) Rotel (diced Tomatoes And Green Chilies)

¼ cups Chopped Onion

1 clove Garlic, Minced

1 whole Jalapeno, Quartered And Sliced Thin

¼ teaspoons Sugar

¼ teaspoons Salt

¼ teaspoons Ground Cumin

½ cups Cilantro (more To Taste!)

½ whole Lime Juice

Preparation Instructions

Combine whole tomatoes, Rotel, onion, jalapeno, garlic, sugar, salt, cumin, lime juice, and cilantro in a blender or food processor. Pulse until you get the salsa to the consistency you’d like—I do about 10 to 15 pulses. Test seasonings with a tortilla chip and adjust as needed.

Refrigerate salsa for at least an hour. Serve with tortilla chips or cheese nachos.

wtf

2010-05-21T08:44:00.001-07:00

im so addicted to tumblr

2010-05-21T04:14:00.001-07:00

check me out flygodess.tumblr.com

dope

2010-05-21T02:50:00.001-07:00

freaky wierd

2010-05-21T02:49:00.000-07:00

Dig it?

2010-05-19T10:31:00.000-07:00

I dont know why i love feather earring but i do i think a short pixie cut with these here are so FLY

from

FEATHERLICIOUS247's

from Still Tree Jewellery

Schedules

2010-05-19T09:16:00.000-07:00

So i haven't really posted anything of substance for a while because i have been so busy my anniversary just passed, mothers day, work my child's b day is coming up and i already started planning his first birthday. Anywho this brings me to the topic of schedules or checklists and how i just created one which end up helping me out in soooo many ways. my house stays clean and i feel like i am on top of it all sometimes.

Monday

wash all sheets, towels and z clothes
make bed
wash dishes and counter tops
clean bathroom
hour of me time
hour of z time

Tuesday

wash lil'W clothes
make bed
wash dishes and counter tops
hour of me time
hour of z time

Wed.

wash my clothes
make bed
wash dishes and counter tops
clean bathroom
bible study

Thursday

wash my big W. clothes
make bed
wash dishes and counter tops
hour of me time
hour of z time

Friday

make bed
wash dishes and counter tops mop floor
clean bathroom plus mop floor
hour of me time
hour of z time

Saturday

clean bedroom,vacuum, mop floor, dust
wash dishes
church
hour of me time
hour of z time

Sunday

make bed
wash dishes
church

With everyone having there own wash day alleviates stress from everyone trying to randomly washing during different days. scheduling time for me regardless of what it is this does not include baths they are separate and a given. we as woman need to take an hour to read or watch your favorite show or even sleep.

Z needs an hour a day to bond including reading, going for walks, zoo, or playing together.

SNOWY COCONUT

2010-05-18T11:49:00.000-07:00

Ingredients
1 1/2 cups sweetened flaked coconut, Baker's®

8 ounces vanilla-flavored candy coating

4 1/2 cups half-and-half

1 1/2 cups coconut rum, Malibu®

3/4 cup white chocolate liqueur, Godiva®
Directions

In a medium bowl, place coconut. In another medium microwave-safe bowl, microwave candy coating according to package directions until melted. Stir until smooth. Dip edge of glasses in candy coating and in coconut flakes. Let stand.

In a large pitcher, combine half-and-half, rum, and white chocolate liqueur, stirring well. Pour into prepared glasses.
Note: To make ahead, cover, and chill half-and-half mixture until ready to serve.

Jennifer Lopez

2010-05-18T11:46:00.000-07:00

Lemonade Mojito

2010-05-16T10:55:00.000-07:00

Lemonade Mojito

Serves 20

Mint leaves (bunch)

1 cup sugar

1 cup water

5 cups club soda

4 cups vodka

4 cups fresh lemon juice

½ cup superfine sugar

First, prepare sugar syrup: Heat the first cup of sugar and water over low heat, stirring with a wooden spoon until sugar has dissolved. Stop stirring and increase heat to medium. Simmer 2 minutes. Remove from heat and let cool; refrigerate 2 hours before using.

In a large bowl, muddle ½ cup mint leaves with the sugar syrup. Stir in club soda, vodka, fresh lemon juice and additional ½superfine sugar. Chill.

Pour into ice-filled pitchers with lemon rounds and mint sprigs; serve in tall glasses.

today i am feeling like

2010-05-12T14:27:00.001-07:00

For Dinner

2010-05-12T14:15:00.000-07:00

Chichen Tortilla Soup

Ingredients

2 tablespoons vegetable oil

1 small onion, diced

2 tablespoons minced garlic

2 jalapenos, finely diced

6 cups low-sodium chicken broth

1 (14.5-ounce) can fire roasted diced tomatoes

1 (14.5-ounce) can black beans, rinsed and drained

1 red pepper

1 green pepper

1 can of corn

3 chicken breasts, boneless and skinless

2 limes, juiced, plus wedges for garnish

Salt and freshly ground black pepper

1 cup roughly chopped fresh cilantro leaves

1 (8-inch) flour tortilla, grilled, cut into thin strips

1 avocado, pitted, sliced

1 cup shredded Monterrey cheese

Directions

In a large saucepan heat the vegetable oil. Add the onions and cook for 2 minutes. Once the onions have softened add the garlic and jalepenos and cook for another minute. Pour the chicken broth, tomatoes and beans into the pot and bring to a boil. Once at a boil lower heat to simmer and add your chicken breasts. Cook the chicken for 20 to 25 minutes. Once chicken is cooked remove from pot. When cool enough to handle shred it and set it aside. Add lime juice and fresh cilantro to the pot. In a serving bowl add a mound of shredded chicken. Ladle soup over chicken and top with a lime wedge, grilled tortilla strips, avocado slices and cheese.

Chicken Enchiladas

Ingredients

3 tablespoons vegetable oil

1 1/2 pounds skinless boneless chicken breast

Salt and pepper

2 teaspoons cumin powder

2 teaspoons garlic powder

1 teaspoon Mexican Spice Blend

1 red onion, chopped

2 cloves garlic, minced

1 cup frozen corn, thawed

5 canned whole green chiles, seeded and coarsely chopped

4 canned chipotle chiles, seeded and minced

1 (28-ounce) can stewed tomatoes

1/2 teaspoon all-purpose flour

16 corn tortillas

1 1/2 cups enchilada sauce, canned

1 cup shredded Cheddar and Jack cheeses

Garnish: chopped cilantro leaves, chopped scallions, sour cream, chopped tomatoes

Directions

Coat large saute pan with oil. Season chicken with salt and pepper. Brown chicken over medium heat, allow 7 minutes each side or until no longer pink. Sprinkle chicken with cumin, garlic powder and Mexican spices before turning. Remove chicken to a platter, allow to cool.

Saute onion and garlic in chicken drippings until tender. Add corn and chiles. Stir well to combine. Add canned tomatoes, saute 1 minute.

Pull chicken breasts apart by hand into shredded strips. Add shredded chicken to saute pan, combine with vegetables. Dust the mixture with flour to help set.

Microwave tortillas on high for 30 seconds. This softens them and makes them more pliable. Coat the bottom of 2 (13 by 9-inch) pans with a ladle of enchilada sauce. Using a large shallow bowl, dip each tortilla in enchilada sauce to lightly coat. Spoon 1/4 cup chicken mixture in each tortilla. Fold over filling, place 8 enchiladas in each pan with seam side down. Top with remaining enchilada sauce and cheese.
Bake for 15 minutes in a preheated 350 degree F oven until cheese melts. Garnish with cilantro, scallion, sour cream and chopped tomatoes before serving.

this is real

2010-05-12T12:31:00.001-07:00

sparkling strawberry lemonade

2010-05-11T23:22:00.000-07:00

Sparkling Strawberry Lemonade

4-6 lemons, enough to equal 1 cup of lemon juice
1-1 1/2 c. simple syrup (recipe follows)
16 oz. container of strawberries, cleaned and hulled
1 quart sparkling water

Juice the lemons to get 1 cup of lemon juice. Blend the strawberries and 1/2 c. of the simple syrup in a blender or with an immersion blender, until smooth. Strain to remove the seeds. (I didn't strain the seeds because I didn't have anything that small! It still tasted just fine!) Pour lemon juice, strawberry puree, 1/2 c. simple syrup, and sparkling water into a pitcher. Add more simple syrup if needed to achieve the sweetness you like. Add ice and chill.

Simple Syrup
1 part sugar to 1 part water
I used 3/4 cup sugar to 3/4 cup warm water. This can be done on a stovetop but it is much easier to just use warm water.

Of course I added all of the syrup because I like things sweet, but it wasn't too sweet at all, the perfect balance of tartness and sweetness! The sparkling water also gives it a little extra bite. Either way it was aaaamazing!

P.S. if you want to make it more exciting try vodka or rum for an adult drink yum

hmmmm

2010-05-11T23:05:00.001-07:00

dig it

2010-05-11T22:51:00.001-07:00

dig it

2010-05-11T22:38:00.001-07:00

like this alot

Dig it

2010-05-11T22:33:00.001-07:00

need this in my life immediatly check out

where did you get that blog on my blog list

Funny Ass hell

2010-05-09T11:19:00.001-07:00

10 rules for being a human being

2010-05-09T11:16:00.000-07:00

1.You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it’s yours to keep for the entire period.

2.You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called, “life.”

3.There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial, error, and experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiments that ultimately “work.”

4.Lessons are repeated until they are learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.

5.Learning lessons does not end. There’s no part of life that doesn’t contain its lessons. If you’re alive, that means there are still lessons to be learned.

6.“There” is no better a place than “here.” When your “there” has become a “here”, you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here.”

7.Other people are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.

8.What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.

9.Your answers lie within you. The answers to life’s questions lie within you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.

10.You will forget all this.

U dig

2010-05-07T10:38:00.001-07:00

I dig it

10 Hair Commandments

2010-05-07T08:46:00.000-07:00

I.Thou shalt be thankful for the hair that adorns thy head. Your hair is your ‘crown of glory’ treat it as such.

II. Thou shalt not idolize the hair that adorns another’s head. The hair on your head is unique, it’s what makes you you.
III. Thou shalt not take the hair that adorns thy head in vain. Be aware of the damage that chemicals and heat can cause, some of the damage is irreversible

IV. Remember to take the necessary time to pamper thy hair. Create a routine, set aside specific days for sealing your ends, massaging, trimming, washing, conditioning and styling your hair. A healthy head of hair will be your reward.

V. Honor thy mother, father and ancestors for the beautiful traits that they have bestowed upon thee, one of which is your natural crown of glory. Wear your natural hair with pride.

VI. Thou shalt not attempt to use a fine-tooth comb to detangle thy hair. Even before using a wide-tooth comb, use your fingers to detangle, and when detangling always start from the ends and work your way up towards your scalp.

VII. Thou shalt not be ashamed to wear your natural hair in public. Wigs, weaves, braid extensions etc. are all wonderful temporary ‘protective’ and ‘transition’ styles, but they don’t compare to the beauty of your natural hair.

VIII. Thou shalt not kill the hair follicles on thy head – with high heat, harsh chemicals or tight styles. Stay away from pore clogging, dry scalp causing petroleum based products; use natural essential oil based ones instead. Be gentle with your hair, seek out professional stylists who have experience in styling your hair type.

IX. Thou shalt not bad mouth thy neighbor’s hair. Be respectful and encouraging to those who have not yet chosen to wear their hair natural. Negative comments will only turn them away from the natural hair community.

X. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s hair; thou shalt not covet it’s texture, nor it’s curl pattern, nor it’s length etc. Appreciate the hair that you were blessed with. Try different styles and accessories that accentuate your very own personality and style

Ya Ya

2010-05-07T07:44:00.001-07:00

i want a white watch

2010-05-06T23:21:00.000-07:00

pics from natural belle

2010-05-05T15:24:00.001-07:00

no sleep

2010-05-02T10:32:00.000-07:00

Z kept me up all night long i worked 12 hours got off around 3 made it home by 3:30 a.m. and he was up to 5:15 am. missed church, brunch with my chica, now he is up and active by 11:30 am. i need HELP and SLEEP my husband is at work so i feel like i am sllep walking!

DEAR GOD

2010-05-01T11:08:00.000-07:00

why have you put it in my heart to help people. i mean this is such a thankless job i do everyday i am underpaid over worked, drink to much and it deprives me of spending time with my Z.

why didn't u tell me that marriage is about comprimises and that even though it is two incomes, it equals more bills, and less money :(.

that you have to walk as one while continuing to hold on to your individuality.... and let your mate work towards their dream even if it doesnt benefit you all the time.

why didnt you show me how selfish i really am so i could have worked on it soooo long ago. why cant i just travel the world while being 130 pounds with size C chest and a big ghetto ass. but with an extremely tiny waist.

why cant i work a 9 to 5 job, 4 days a week, so i can have a 3 day weekend. but no i chose to be a police officer with long, so long hours......

i need another rum a coke

Lemonade Champagne Cocktail

2010-04-30T10:23:00.000-07:00

Ingredients

1 (750-milliliter) bottle Champagne, chilled

3 cups lemonade, chilled

1/2 cup fresh-squeezed orange juice

Garnish: lemon twist, orange twist

Directions

In a large pitcher, combine Champagne, lemonade, and orange juice. Serve cold, or over ice. Garnish with lemon twist and orange twist, if desired.

Lemon Drop Martini

2010-04-30T10:19:00.000-07:00

Ingredients

Vodka

Sanding sugar

2/3 cup lemon vodka, Smirnoff®

1/3 cup fresh lemon juice

2 tablespoons triple sec

Garnish: lemon drop candies

Directions

In a shallow dish, place a small amount of vodka. In another small shallow dish, add desired amount sanding sugar. Dip rim of a chilled cocktail glass into vodka, and then into sanding sugar. Let stand to dry.

Fill a cocktail shaker halfway with ice cubes. Add lemon vodka, lemon juice, and triple sec. Shake with ice, and strain into prepared martini glasses. Garnish with lemon drop candies, if desired.

Ciara... Body Obsession

2010-04-24T08:50:00.000-07:00

my motivation continues as summer rolls closer. let her motivate u to get that there n shape.

Do everything with love

2010-04-23T08:17:00.000-07:00

Its funny that with my son i can do everything with patience. he never irritates me at all. even when he cries if i am patient and loving it seems he calms down and we get along perfectly.

i am going to implement that today with everybody patience and love = easier day.

Ten Commitments ?

2010-04-22T19:47:00.001-07:00

I was reading this book "A conversation with God!" A man had a conversation with God to the point that he wrote a couple of books. They had a question and answere thing going on. This is the clarification that God gave the author on the ten commadments, Check it out...

Ten Commitments

You shall know that you have taken the path to God, and you shall know that you have found God, for there will be these signs, these indications, these changes in you:

1. You shall love God with all your heart, all your mind, all your soul. And there shall be no other God set before Me. No longer will you worship human love, or success, money, or power, nor any symbol thereof. You will set aside these things as a child sets aside toys. Not because they are unworthy, but because you have outgrown them.

And, you shall know you have taken the path to God because:

2. You shall not use the name of God in vain. Nor will you call upon Me for frivolous things. You will understand the power of words, and of thoughts, and you would not think of invoking the name of God in a unGodly manner. You shall not use My name in vain because you cannot. For My name -- the Great "I Am” -- is never used in vain (that is, without result), nor can it ever be. And when you have found God, you shall know this.

And, I shall give you these other signs as well:

3. You shall remember to keep a day for Me, and you shall call it holy. This, so that you do not long stay in your illusion, but cause yourself to remember who and what you are. And then shall you soon call every day the Sabbath, and every moment holy.

4. You shall honor your mother and your father -- and you will know you are the Son of God when you honor your Father/Mother God in all that you say or do or think. And even as you so honor the Mother/Father God, and your father and mother on Earth (for they have given you life), so, too, will you honor everyone.

5. You know you have found God when you observe that you will not murder (that is, willfully kill, without cause). For while you will understand that you cannot end another’s life in any event (all life is eternal), you will not choose to terminate any particular incarnation, nor change any life energy from one form to another, without the most sacred justification. Your new reverence for life will cause you to honor all life forms -- including plants, trees and animals -- and to impact them only when it is for the highest good.
And these other signs will I send you also, that you may know you are on the path:

6. You will not defile the purity of love with dishonesty or deceit, for this is adulterous. I promise you, when you have found God, you shall not commit this adultery.

7. You will not take a thing that is not your own, nor cheat, nor connive, nor harm another to have anything, for this would be to steal. I promise you, when you have found God, you shall not steal.
Nor shall you...

8. Say a thing that is not true, and thus bear false witness.
Nor shall you...

9. Covet your neighbor’s spouse, for why would you want your neighbor’s spouse when you know all others are your spouse?

10. Covet you neighbor’s goods, for why would you want your neighbor’s goods when you know that all goods can be yours, and all your goods belong to the world?

You will know that you have found the path to God when you see these signs. For I promise that no one who truly seeks God shall any longer do these things. It would be impossible to continue such behaviors.
These are your freedoms, not your restrictions. These are my commitments, not my commandments. For God does not order about what God has created -- God merely tells God’s children: this is how you will know that you are coming home.

senegalese twists

2010-04-22T10:55:00.000-07:00

im thinking about doing this for my spring look

peach sangria

2010-04-21T07:56:00.000-07:00

i went to a restaurant for lunch and they had this yummy peach sangria here is the recipe the waiter gave me

pineapple juice

peach syrup

white wine

soda water

here is my rendition

pinepple juice

peach brandy or schnapps

white wine

peach vodka

garnish with peaches

yummy try it and tell me what you think

im not a junior anymore ... random thought

2010-04-13T09:42:00.000-07:00

i went shopping today and as i was trying on clothes. i looked like a whore. a bad one at that. meaning everything i tried on was tooo tight in all the wrong places. yes my ass looked big but tacky, my thighs were popping out the sides, and who in the hell thought of low rise jeans in the first fucking place.

then i ventured to a different section of the store, oh what is this, Misses section. the jeans fit perfectly showed my shape but not too tight, the jeans fit right up to my belly button, i can breathe, i likes this.

Excited about this new find i contacted my BFF. she laughed at me. Jaye you still shop in juniors you have a baby now, your hips have spread, you are a woman and may i remind you, you are 3*.

Right on, so i got to thinking i do dress so immature, i mean half the time i am in a uniform so i dont really think about my street clothing as much anymore. i dont go to clubs so i dont need club wear.

i am going to start picking some new pieces, more age appropriate because did you guys know... i am a woman now. (SMILE)

p.s. then y am i in an A cup :( (so frusturating)

wash and go

2010-04-13T09:41:00.001-07:00