Random Truths

So i realized that what i am going through everyday is what everyone goes through. I feel in my twenties i searched for myself and enjoyed what experiences i thought i wanted to enjoy. i made goals to become the woman that i wanted to become. once i did those goals  by my thirties i got married and had a child. But what i didnt realize that my goals and the things i wanted would change. it seems so obvious too me now but then when it was happening i was confused and depressed. why is what i planned not enough etc. etc. etc.

but talking and praying and meditating and reading i have found that this in normal and even if it was abnormal to someone else it was normal to me and my life.

It is amazing that you can find God/Goddess in every and anything even in the smallest detail. i at this exact second typing these words are at peace. Now the lesson is how to maintain it. 

Update

I know i havent updated my blog in a while but i have been bust wrapping up the summer. I am going to start my 21 day fast tommorow and will try to update everyday or maybe weekly (which is more like).

Somebody tell me something Good

Random thoughts

“With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”

Dear Myself

I have been writing on this blog for a short time not knowing which direction to take and what to focus on. I have been using this as sort of a diary of things i found or information i want to keep with a place to always refer back to.

But now i have a direction and a new course i would like to take, i want someone to go along and share my experiences with. Recently i believed i wanted to be enlightened and brought into conciousness and though i know some wont understand i am going to take the path of knowledge of thyself "know thyself!"

I was laying in bed and one thought came into my concious, Religion is a man made separation of one spirit to another, and isnt that a sin. Sin to seperate onself from another becuase of a belief.

I have always believed in Christianity and that can not be uprooted but I have to open my eyes to who i really am. Because i have a vagina i am less than or not equal to a man. We call father God but where is Mother God. I am made in an image of God and he created me too, God is in me I am a Goddess. I must act accordingly.

When I pushed my son from my vagina it was the most eye opening experience of my life. I am powerful I am a healer a creator I am a Goddess.

For so long I took what people said about things without researching. But that is different it is time, My time to come into My truth!

When it came to find which direction do I go to find the information so many books and ideas come my way. Father/Mother God Creator will lead me.

First step: I must fast and cleanse my system.  This is sooo hard for me to do but i must discipline my flesh. I am going to PHilly on the 15th to the 18th and then i will start my fast HARD.

Im looking for some true Woman to go with me. I am also following Sacred Woman by  Queen Afua it is a very good book if someone would like to travel with me to enlightenment.

13 top contaminated fruits and veggies

Buy these items Organic only

Peaches
Apples
Bell peppers
Celery
Nectarines
Cherries
Potatoes
Pears
Lettuce
Grapes
Strawberries
Tomatoes
Spinich

A lesson in Sushi

Rainbow Roll


Nori, rice, avocado, surimi, plus a variety of raw fish arranged on top

476 calories

16 g fat
33 g protein
6 g fiber
50 g carbohydrates



Higher in calories than most rolls you’ll find, but loaded as this is with substantial portions of myriad raw fish, most of those calories are the good kind. Rainbow rolls are typically large, so a single order and a bowl of miso soup make a filling dinner.

Nori, rice, cucumber


136 calories

0 g fat
6 g protein
3.5 g fiber
30 g carbohydrates

It’s hard to go wrong with cucumbers and seaweed. Though not a nutritional powerhouse, cucumbers are a low-calorie delivery system for vitamins A and C, fiber, and silica, a compound that has been shown to foster healthy skin.

 

Avocado Roll


Nori, rice, avocado

140 calories

5.5 g fat

2 g protein

6 g fiber

28 g carbohydrates


Most of the calories in this vegetarian roll come from healthy monounsaturated fats. Avocado makes a great addition to any roll, since a sushi-size portion also contains about 3 grams of fiber.

Tuna Roll


Nori, rice, tuna

184 calories

2 g fat
24 g protein
3.5 g fiber
27 g carbohydrates

More than half of the calories in this simple, classic roll come from protein, making it a great light meal or a snack with substance.

California Roll


Nori, rice, avocado, surimi

255 calories

7 g fat
9 g protein
6 g fiber
38 g carbohydrates

The ubiquitous fusion roll is a great beginner’s foray into the potential of sushi, since there’s no raw fish involved. There are also no real healthy fats either (aside from the avocado, of course), since the fake crab (made from a variety of processed and compressed fish) has 1⁄15 the amount of omega-3s as the real stuff.

Spicy Tuna Roll
Nori, rice, tuna, mayo, chili sauce


290 calories

11 g fat
24 g protein
3.5 g fiber
26 g carbohydrates

In the world of sushi, “spicy” means a spoonful of mayo spiked with an Asian chili sauce. The calorie counts can climb higher than this, depending on how heavy a hand the sushi chef has with the spicy stuff. Either way, you’re better off satisfying your need for heat with a touch of wasabi.

Philadelphia Roll

Nori, rice, salmon, cream cheese, cucumber

290 calories

12 g fat (5 g saturated)
14 g protein
2 g fiber
28 g carbohydrates

Just like the mayo adds empty calories to an otherwise reliable spicy tuna roll, cream cheese blankets perfectly fine salmon and cucumber with an unnecessary measure of fat.

Salmon and Avocado Roll

Nori, rice, salmon, avocado

304 calories

8.5 g fat
13 g protein
6 g fiber
42 g carbohydrates

High in calories, but nearly all of those calories come from the one-two punch of healthy fats found in the salmon and the avocado.




                                                        Eel and Avocado Roll

Nori, rice, avocado, eel

372 calories

17 g fat
20 g protein
6 g fiber
31 g carbohydrates

Eel brings a solid helping of omega-3s to the sushi bar, but unfortunately, it’s almost always covered in a gloppy, sugary brown sauce that masks both the nutrition and the delicate natural flavor of this wily sea creature. If you opt for this roll, make it your only one of the night.

Shrimp Tempura Roll


Nori, rice, shrimp, tempura batter, oil for frying

508 calories

21 g fat
20 g protein
4.5 g fiber
64 g carbohydrates

Why take a perfectly good piece of lean shrimp and ruin it with thick batter and a hot oil bath? The joy of fried food—the crunch—is snuffed out by the moist rice, so this one doesn’t make sense from either a flavor or a nutritional perspective.

6 Foods for Healthy Skin

1. SALMON


Salmon is an ideal food for many reasons, but as far as your skin’s concerned, there’s only one that matters: It’s among the world’s greatest sources of omega-3 fatty acids. Those are the essential fats that, along with bolstering the cognitive powers of your brain, concentrate in the walls of your epidermal cells to help lock in moisture. Plus, in one study, researchers supplemented two groups of mice with either omega-3 or omega-6 fats. After two weeks, the skin of the omega-3-fed group exhibited a 20 percent faster recovery rate from exposure to ultraviolet light. That gives salmon two crucial skin boons: keeping your skin from looking dry and helping it battle the dangers of excessive sunlight.
Other omega-3 foods: sardines, walnuts, flaxseed

2. CARROTS


Carrots are teeming with tiny orange pigments called beta-carotene, and when you ingest those pigments, you’re inviting them to nestle into your skin, fill in blotches, and give you a healthy glow. And what’s more, research shows that this can actually help prevent premature aging from sun damage. But is the accumulation of orange in your skin going to make you look like an extra from Jersey Shore? Well, hopefully not. But eating excessive loads of carotene-rich foods can lead to a condition called carotenosis, wherein your skin stops looking healthy and starts looking, well, orange. But the conditions is rare, so unless you notice yourself turning into a prison jumpsuit, feel free to chow down.

Other beta-carotene foods: sweet potatoes, red bell peppers, red grapefruit

3. AVOCADO


One study published by The Journal of the American College of Nutrition found that people with higher intakes of olive oil had fewer wrinkles than people with higher intakes of butter. The reason: Butter is loaded with saturated fat, while olive oil is rich in monounsaturates, the same essential fats that make up more than 50% of the calories in an avocado. So why eat avocado over olive oil? Both are good, but avocados have the added bonus of B vitamins, which also help to keep your skin looking vibrant and smooth.

Other monounsaturated-fat foods: olive oil, almonds, peanut butter

4. BEANS


Legumes, to be more precise. This is the class of plants that includes black beans, chickpeas, lentils, soybeans, and peanuts. And how do these puny pods protect your face? By smoothing out wrinkles. Australian researchers analyzed the diets of more than 400 elderly men and women and found that high intakes of legumes—alongside vegetables and healthy fats—resulted in 20% fewer wrinkles over time. The effect is likely a result of isoflavones—potent antioxidants—concentrated in the beans.


Other isoflavone-rich foods: alfalfa, tempeh, tofu

5. GRAPES


Besides providing protection from heart attack and stroke, antioxidants called polyphenols found in grapes can also help keep middle-aged skin from sagging. That’s because polyphenols improve skin’s elasticity by strengthening collagen, the primary protein in skin’s innermost layer.

Other polyphenol-rich foods: grape juice, blueberries

6. WATER


Okay, it’s not as fun to drink as wine, but water is the strongest weapon you have against lifeless skin. That’s why they call it “moisturizing”—because you’re trying to lock moisture, aka water, into your skin. To put it broadly, all the body’s processes rely on hydration, so if you’re not sipping throughout the day, you’re likely to have a slower metabolism, groggier head, and, yes, drier skin. One study suggested that it takes a mere half-liter of water to create a measurable increase in the capillary blood flow to your body’s outer layer. That’s just over 16 ounces. Try doing that a few times a day and you’ll have a face like a baby’s bottom in no time.
Other water-rich foods: watermelon, peaches, celery

Body Shaper

I will admit it.... I am 32 and I need a body shaper. I remember back in the day, okay i dont remember, but i saw in movies and heard my grandmother talk about those times. That woman had style and a sort of sophisticated fashion sense. They wore slips, gurdles, and undergarments.

Well my problem areas are my tummy. i am a slim athletic built person and when extra weight comes it comes to my mid section and rear end (which I have no complaints there). any way i have found a few items that i am going to have to purchase.

SPANX: Hide & Sleek Body Smoothing Camisole Smoothes the midriff, with a double layer along the bust for support. The search for the perfect undershirt is over. The SPANX® Hide & Sleek Body Smoothing Cami offers coverage from sheer fabrics and tummy slimming all at once.  $42.00

Style #050

Light body-shaping camisole

Constructed of moisture-wicking microfiber

Double layer compression starts below the bust

Smoothes and firms the midriff

Creates a smooth line underneath your clothing

Higher back to avoid visible lumps or bulges

Slick yarns won’t cling to clothes

Lightweight stitching on straps for comfort

Tucks into pants and skirts for an invisible look
 
 
 

 
SPANX: Hide & Sleek Hi-Rise Panty $42.00
 
 Firm smoothing all the way up to the bra line! Smooth, seam-free fabric and nonbinding leg for a perfect silhouette under clothes. Ultra-sleek, soft fabric provides double layer compression to smooth and firm.


Style #140

Full coverage, high-waisted brief

Shimmering, stretch microfiber

Provides light control

Double layer compression smoothes tummy and rear

Moisture-wicking fabric for a cool, dry feel

Silicone elastic waistband maximizes comfort

Creates a smooth line underneath your clothing

No visible panty lines

Cotton gusset

Tagless for comfort
 

  Corselette Latex Body Shaper  $72.00
   


















Va Bien: Ultra-Lift Low Plunge Body Briefer. $80.00                                                                                                                                                                                 Give your bust a boost and your tummy a tuck with this low-back, firm-control shaper. Patented Ultra-Lift underwire cups enhance cleavage. It even comes equipped with convertible bra straps!


Style #1500

Firm control, low back body shaper

Shimmery microfiber

Sheer mesh detail on front

Patented Ultra-Lift boned cups for shape and support

Side boning provides additional shaping

Double-lined front panel for extra tummy control

Converts to criss-cross or halter

Satin bow on plunging neckline

Fully adjustable straps

Cotton panel

Convenient hook and eye gusset

No closure - step into it like a bathing suit

European cup sizes. See size chart for U.S. conversion.

Flexees: Fat-Free Dressing Boyshorts $26.00 
 
Style #3017


Firm control boyshorts

Stretch nylon

Tummy flattening hidden panel

Cotton gusset

Covered elastic waistband
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
All of these things can be purchased at barenecessities.
 
P.S. you know what is funny that all of these models are skinny  and they do not need a damn shaper

Hello is any one out there....

i came across a blog talking about Beauty Routines. OMG I dont have one is that weird woman in her 30's with out a routine maybe that is why i have so many problems with my skin and hair. It all goes back to me being non disciplined. anyway I want anyone who reads this blog to post a beauty routine PLEASE!

Tips for Buying and Storing Summer Fruit

STRAWBERRIES



How to Buy

Strawberries vary in size, shape, and color. Look for locally grown berries that are brightly colored and plump. They should have the green caps attached and be uniform in size. Avoid soft, shriveled, or moldy fruits. If the strawberries smell sweet, they will most likely taste sweet too.



How to Store

Sort and remove any bruised or damaged berries as soon as possible. Do not rinse fruits until you are ready to use them. Refrigerate strawberries in a tightly sealed container, preferably in a single layer on a paper towel, for two to three days.



RHUBARB

Rhubarb has long, thick stalks, similar to celery. There are two main types of rhubarb: hothouse, which is grown indoors and sold year-round, and field-grown, which has a bit more flavor and is available from April to July.



How to Buy

Rhubarb ranges in color from deep red to pinkish tinged with green. Choose crisp stalks that are about an inch wide, with no brown spots.



How to Store

Refrigerate in a plastic bag for up to one week.



How It’s Used

Because it’s very tart, rhubarb is always cooked with sugar (or other sweetener). It is often combined with red fruits, such as strawberries or raspberries, to enhance the color and complement the flavor.



How to Prepare

Rinse well, then trim the bottoms and tops. If there are any leaves, slice off and discard (they are toxic). If the stalks are stringy, remove with a small paring knife, as you would for celery.



PEACHES



How to Buy

July and August are prime time for peaches. Choose fruit with a fragrant aroma and flesh that yields a bit when pressed gently. If a peach has cuts or tan spots, or if it’s rock-hard or mushy, don’t buy it. Color has more to do with variety than ripeness. Peaches that are tinged with green, however, are usually underripe. For the best flavor, look for locally grown, tree-ripened peaches.



How to Ripen

Place peaches in a paper bag, with an apple, if you have one. Keep them at room temperature until they’re ready, and check them frequently.



How to Store

Ripe peaches are best eaten right away, but you can refrigerate them for three to five days.



BLUEBERRIES



How to Buy

You can find cultivated berries all year; wild (and locally grown) berries are available primarily during July and August. Wild blueberries are much smaller and often more intensely flavored than cultivated ones. The berries should be firm, uniform in size, and deep blue in color, with a silvery or white sheen. Avoid any packages that appear stained or damp, as the fruit inside may be spoiled.



How to Store

Remove any twigs or leaves along with any berries that are soft or moldy. Refrigerate in the original container up to five days. When you’re ready to use them, rinse berries under cold water; drain and pat dry.



How to Freeze

Spread rinsed and dried berries on a rimmed baking sheet; freeze until firm, one hour. Transfer to resealable plastic bags (label and date); store up to six months.



PLUMS

Plums are cultivated in temperate regions all around the world. They come in a wide range of sizes, colors, and tastes; more than 100 varieties are sold in the United States alone. Most types of plums are grown for eating out of hand. Others, selected for their high level of sugar, are cultivated to be dried; they’re then called dried plums or prunes.



How to Buy

Domestic plums are crimson to black-red with a yellow or reddish flesh; they are in season May through October. European varieties, which peak during the fall months, range from green to blue to purple and have a golden yellow flesh. Look for plums that are even in color and plump, yielding gently to pressure. Stay away from fruit with wrinkled or broken skin or extremely soft spots.



How to Ripen



If too firm to use, place in a closed paper bag at room temperature for one to two days.



How to Store

Once ripe, plums can be kept in a plastic bag in the refrigerator up to three days.



MELONS



How to Buy

Look for those that are fragrant and heavy. Press end opposite stem to feel for a bit of give. For watermelon: Avoid those with flat sides. Presliced, it should be deep red with about an inch of white rind.



How to Store

Store whole melons in a cool spot or, if cut, in the refrigerator.



Source: Martha Stewart. View the article on MarthaStewart.com

Dear God

I dont know why i always come to this point, trusting others more than trusting in you. I have protected myself thus far but i believed in this person. According to your word I am suppose to follow him whole heartedly. Submitt and follow, but what if the person i follow doesn't love me like Christ loves the church. Or maybe he does love me to the best of His ability but it is not enough for me.

Our goals and how we deal with life, situations, and children are all different than what or how i deal with them or how we originally talked about. How do we compromise when a situation is uncompromisable. How come woman always have to compromise and be the bigger person with more common sense. You sent a messenger that revealed to me that I am a helpmate and that was our divine gift. But who or what is suppose to relieve my stress when i dont have the strength to help.

I remember older and wiser woman telling me dont let the left hand know what the right hand is doing and always stash something for a rainy day NO ONE knows about. I fail to take head to these precious words, I was sooo tired and worn out i needed a break for about a year, free from wory, work and responsibility. Because of that i am now in this ridiculous situation of let down feelings that can or may turn in to bitterness or resentment. But the year has gone and passed and I need to get back on my grind.

Please lord help this goddess focus.

coffee filter uses

 Coffee filters ..who knew!
And you can buy 1,000 at the Dollar Tree
for almost nothing.

 1. Cover bowls or dishes when cooking in the microwave.
 Coffee filters make excellent covers.

 2. Clean windows and mirrors.
 Coffee filters are lint-free so they'll leave windows sparkling.

 3. Protect China.
 Separate your good dishes by putting a coffee filter between each dish.

 4. Filter broken cork from wine.
 If you break the cork when opening a wine bottle, filter the wine through a coffee filter.

 5. Protect a cast-iron skillet.
 Place a coffee filter in the skillet to absorb moisture and prevent rust.

 6. Apply shoe polish.
 Ball up a lint-free coffee filter.

 7. Recycle frying oil.
 After frying, strain oil through a sieve lined with a coffee filter.

8. Weigh chopped foods.
 Place chopped ingredients in a coffee filter on a kitchen scale.

 9. Hold tacos.
 Coffee filters make convenient wrappers for messy foods.

 10. Stop the soil from leaking out of a plant pot.
 Line a plant pot with a coffee filter to prevent the soil from going through the drainage holes.

 11. Prevent a Popsicle from dripping.
 Poke one or two holes as needed in a coffee filter.

 12. Do you think we used expensive strips to wax eyebrows?
Use strips of coffee filters.

 13. Put a few in a plate and put your fried bacon,
 French fries, chicken fingers, etc on them. Soaks out all the grease.

 14. Keep in the bathroom.
 They make great "razor nick fixers."

30 Ways To Be Happy, Healthy, and Wise

Copied this from someone's blog and they got this from Essence Magazine. Thought this will help everyone
 in thier lives.

1.  I maintain a healthy weight with little effort
2.  My retirement is secure.
3.  I have enough wealth to pass on.
4.  I have found my soul mate, who cherishes me.
5.  I embrace and enjoy my sexuality.
6.  I relish adventures and special moments.
7.  I love my work; it enriches others.
8.  I own a successful business.
9.  I take care of my body, and it takes care of me.
10.  I radiate health, thanks to natural foods.
11.  I am learning all that I need to know.
12.  My credit is excellent, and I am debt-free.
13.  I am free of drugs and nicotine.
14.  I am free of drama, pain and regret.
15.  I drink moderately in good spirits, or not at all.
16.  I've got stamina, thanks to regular activity.
17.  I work out to keep my body strong and supple.
18.  I forgive all who have hurt or betrayed me.
19.  I own a beautiful and love-filled home.
20.  I have rainy-day funds, insurance and a will (legalzoom.com).
21.  I sleep peacefully and awaken energized.
22.  I embrace new experiences.
23.  I look good and receive compliments daily.
24.  My family and friends love and nourish me.
25.  My neighbors and I look out for one another.
26.  My time and talents strengthen others.
27.  Within my village, I am raising a child.
28.  I make a difference in this world.
29.  I am protected and blessed.
30.  I love my life.

Are any of you down for this challenge? Let me know!

Let your food be your medicine and your medicine be your food

Hair Update

i have a confession to make. I permed my hair  and it was such a big mistake. so i have cut my hair off all over again. Not a short fro but like rihanna all short in the back and long in the front. i am going to transition my front out.

I feel such like a traitor. but what i do know is that short hair is just better for me i think it is more sexy but i still love my long hair sista's.

shout out to mop top maven.

i will post pics but i am so unphotogenic

Lost In Translation

so for the past couple of days i turned my television off and just have been reading. reading mostly love stories. I dont know if it is because its my time of the month. but i hate television and am loving the peace and quiet.

the only real problem is i havent had a desire to pick up my bible. i bought a new one, read the bible in 90 days but i cant stay focused.

im in such a stand still rut. I have p90X and i havent even started it yet. havent read my bible, and havent put one foot over the other to just do what i need to do  HO HUM

37 things to never apologize for

1. Never apologize for acting on your instincts. Listening to your body – then taking action on what you hear – is the hallmark of heroic people.


2. Never apologize for all the tears you’ve cried. Crying cleanses the soul. Shoot for once a month. Even if it’s just a brief mist at a tender moment in a sad movie.

3. Never apologize for anything in your portfolio. If you feel the need to do so, it probably doesn’t belong in your portfolio in the first place.

4. Never apologize for asking for what you need. The answer to every question you DON’T ask is always no.

5. Never apologize for asking questions. When you stop asking questions, you don’t just run out of answers – you run out of hope.

6. Never apologize for asserting yourself. The word “assert” comes from the Latin asserere, which means, “to claim, maintain or affirm.” And that’s exactly what you’re entitled to: Your opinion. Your belief. Your say. Let nobody take it away from you.

7. Never apologize for being a health nut. Next time someone says, “What are you, on a diet or something?” look them straight in the eye and say, “Yeah – you got a problem with that?” Then, when they back down, you go right back to eating your tofu.

8. Never apologize for being a newbie. Everyone great chess master was once a beginner.

9. Never apologize for being early for an appointment. In the history of Corporate America, no employee has ever been fired for consistently arriving ten minutes early to every meeting.

10. Never apologize for being funny. The world is too damn serious. We need you. Seriously.

11. Never apologize for being human. Once you do, you’re no longer human – you’re a cyborg.

12. Never apologize for being passionate. Unless you’re passionate about stabbing strangers with broken Coke bottles.

13. Never apologize for being smart. That’s the ONE thing the government, the media (and every other entity that’s trying to control you) is terrified of: Smart people who take action. Be one of those people.

14. Never apologize for being the age that you are. It’s just a number. “A chicken ain’t nothing but a bird,” as my Grandpa likes to say.

15. Never apologize for breaking a rule that isn’t really a rule. Be proud of yourself for being a rule breaker. Then go break another one.

16. Never apologize for calling bullshit on someone. Especially when nobody else is the room is going to do it and this person REALLY needs to be taken to task.

17. Never apologize for demanding respect. If you’ve demonstrated that you deserve respect by giving it to others first, you’re good to go.

18. Never apologize for disagreeing. Especially if you do so respectfully. On the other hand, if you’re disagreeing for the sake of disagreeing, or because of your pathological need to be right, that’s a different story.

19. Never apologize for expressing yourself. That’s all “leadership” is: The full, free expression of your truth. Don’t say you’re sorry for that.

20. Never apologize for falling in love. Your heart’s calling the shots.

21. Never apologize for falling OUT of love. Your heart’s still calling the shots – even when you throw up an air ball.

22. Never apologize for getting something off your chest. That which you suppress will find a home in your body. And then it will trash the place.

23. Never apologize for giving it your best shot. As my Grandpa also reminds me, “You do the best you can with as many as you can.”

24. Never apologize for growing up privileged. As long as you scrap the entitlement attitude, remain grateful for everything you’ve ever been given and respect the life situation of those who are less fortunate, it’s all good.

25. Never apologize for having an overabundance of love in your life. Instead, circulate what you’ve got. Pay it forward. Share it. People need it. Especially St. Louis Rams fans. God we suck.

26. Never apologize for lack of experience. Instead, share your Learning Plan; demonstrate your dedication to lifelong learning and practice becoming the world’s expert at learning from your experiences.

27. Never apologize for lack of information. Ignorance is acceptable. Staying ignorant, however, is stupid.

28. Never apologize for liking stupid movies. Movie snobs annoy me. Some of my favorite movies are among the most ridiculous films ever made. So I love Road House. Sue me.

29. Never apologize for living your truth. Few things in the world are more important.

30. Never apologize for looking out for yourself. Self-preservation is a primary driver of human behavior. It’s how we’re wired.

31. Never apologize for loving yourself. If you do, you probably don’t love yourself as much as you thought.

32. Never apologize for making a decision from the heart. Remember: It’s not thee truth – it’s YOUR truth.

33. Never apologize for needing alone time. Solitude is soil. Solitude is medicine. And if you don’t get your fix every day, your life will suffer.

34. Never apologize for needing to use the bathroom. Yesterday a girl in my yoga class walked out of the room and actually said to the teacher, “I have to pee, I’m SO sorry.” Unbelievable.

35. Never apologize for not being there when someone called. You have a life, too. People can’t expect you to wait eagerly by the phone all hours of the day.

36. Never apologize for not embracing someone else’s agenda. Especially if that agenda robs you of your true talent.

37. Never apologize for occasional absentmindedness. Everyone’s brain farts.

Images

Sooo me and my girls were talking about men of course. and recently boyfriends or husbands have opened there mouths and freely talked about their dislikes in a very hurtful manner. especially weight. anywhere from u r fat and I'm not attracted to u, too hey get that stomach together.

soooo how far do u go with the image of a perfect girl. meaning are u expected to look the same always? when you are told something like that do you be come obsessed or motivated to change?

Is she for real

platinum blonde hair i think not

25 Things you should know about Other People

1. Most people hide their suffering better than you think, you pass dozens of people a day on the street without any idea how well they’re wearing their tragedies.

2. People’s names are the sweetest sounds they hear. You should make a point of being good at learning and using them.
3. People love to spread their misery around, but not as much as they enjoy being lifted out of it.

4. Being young is not in and of itself an achievement. Neither is being beautiful. But people often treat you as if they are.

5. For a lot of people, music is a reflection of who they are and their relationship to life. Remember that before insulting someone’s favorite band.

6. The Golden Age never existed. People are always trying to get back to a time when things were simpler and better. The world was a far more dangerous place fifty years ago, especially if you were black or a woman or gay or diagnosed with cancer.

7. Most people, whatever their choice of profession, feel like complete novices that are about to be found out as frauds and fakers.

8. Most people love quite helplessly, despite what they would have you believe.

9. Show me the most beautiful woman in the world, and I’ll show you a man who’s bored with taking her to bed. Show me the most devoted husband, and I’ll show you a woman who feels that he’s just not doing enough. A lot of people are never satisfied because…

10. Most people have no idea what they want out of life, let alone how to get it. Most others are still waiting for someone to give them permission.

11. Whatever it is about yourself that you’re trying to hide, it’s usually the first thing someone else notices about you.

12. You should call your mother and tell her you love her. Like most women who decide to marry and have children or help take care of a dying parent, she probably sacrificed a lot of her dreams to be there for you, and she wishes that you appreciated her more for it. Susan Boyle represented this demographic powerfully, but for every one of her, was a woman like your mother who will never get that standing ovation.

13. If you tell a man about your problems, he assumes you want some sort of help or advice. If you tell a woman about your problems, she assumes you simply want a shoulder to cry on. Women rarely want to be told what to do about a problem, and men rarely want to be coddled through a hard time.

14. Creative people thrive on feedback. You can never give them enough of it, and you will endear yourselves to them mightily if you do it frequently, thoughtfully, and honestly. They understand far better than most think, the value of time.

15. For most people religion is a social commitment more than a spiritual one.

16. A lot of people who consider themselves intelligent can’t properly label all the states on a map, or all the countries in Europe, let alone Africa or the Middle East. Most couldn’t list off the ten commandments, five pilars, or the amendments of the Constitution, and feel that politics are too complicated to bother with understanding, let alone talking about.

17. A lot of Christians have never, and will never, read the Bible. Most of them will conduct their lives exactly as they would if they’d never attended a single church service. It is nearly impossible to tell a Christian from an atheist by their actions alone. Both Christians and atheists will probably find the previous statement offensive.

18. For nearly every crazy idea, you can find a fully credentialed scientist who will back it up.

19. People are more frequently kind and compassionate than they are fooled by our manipulations or lies.

20. Life often works in reverse. People treat strangers more politely than their family or friends. People will ask a friend’s band to play their party for free, will call their best girlfriend to come over and cut their hair without a thought to payment, but would never dream of calling a mechanic they found in the phonebook and asking them to donate their time and labor to fix a broken down car.

21. Everyone has done something they would be desperately embarrassed for anyone else to know about.

22. Never joke with a man about his sexual performance, and never joke with a woman about her appearance. No matter how much they make fun of these things in themselves, never, never do it for them. They may laugh along with you, but you’ve just driven a tiny needle into their brain.

23. Most women get married because they want to have a wedding, most men get married because they are ready to settle down with a woman for the rest of their lives. Women, statistically speaking are more likely to suffer clinical depression if married, and initiate upwards of 80% of all divorces citing irreconcilable differences. People expect a significant other to change their lives and make them happy without any conception of how this change will take place. Sort of like assuming a college degree is going to guarantee you security in life without ever thinking of how this can be practically possible. I call this the “If you build it, they will come” approach to romance and one out of every two times it ends in divorce.

24. Most people are worried they’re not having as much fun as they should be. This usually makes men cheat and women nag.

25. When you insult or offend someone, always admit it and apologize promptly, even if it wasn’t your intention or you had no idea. It is always better to be a penitent villain than to appear so socially inept as to not recognize when you’ve hurt the people around you. An evil genius is someone to bring to your side, a blundering fool is someone to keep as far away from you as possible.