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I have a great personality i believe. i am funny in my own way and very loyal to my friends. I am a natural sista 3C/4A hair and am challenging myself to have healthy hair and healthy skin. I am not a length crazy person but i am attempting to grow my hair off as long as i can then i am going to cut it off like Halle Berry. I love to cook so sometimes i will post recipes. My loves are clothes, skin, makeup, shoes, food, alcohal, hair, and my son. LOL! Stay Tuned!

Monday, September 27, 2010

Im moving....

I love blogger but my layout will not work so i have moved my blog too....
The Fly Goddess Obsession

Thursday, September 23, 2010

Random Truths

So i realized that what i am going through everyday is what everyone goes through. I feel in my twenties i searched for myself and enjoyed what experiences i thought i wanted to enjoy. i made goals to become the woman that i wanted to become. once i did those goals  by my thirties i got married and had a child. But what i didnt realize that my goals and the things i wanted would change. it seems so obvious too me now but then when it was happening i was confused and depressed. why is what i planned not enough etc. etc. etc.

but talking and praying and meditating and reading i have found that this in normal and even if it was abnormal to someone else it was normal to me and my life.

It is amazing that you can find God/Goddess in every and anything even in the smallest detail. i at this exact second typing these words are at peace. Now the lesson is how to maintain it. 

Sunday, September 19, 2010

Strawberry Cupcakes from Mop Top Maven

Recipe Ingredients:

2/3 cup whole fresh or frozen strawberries, thawed

1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour, sifted

1 teaspoon baking powder

1/4 teaspoon coarse salt

1/4 cup whole milk, room temperature

1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract

1/2 cup (1 stick) unsalted butter, room temperature

1 cup sugar

1 large egg, room temperature

2 large egg whites, room temperature


Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Line a 12-cup muffin tin with cupcake liners; set aside.

Place strawberries in a small food processor; process until pureed. You should have about 1/3 cup of puree, add a few more strawberries if necessary or save any extra puree for frosting; set aside.

In a medium bowl, whisk together flour, baking powder, and salt; set aside. In a small bowl, mix together milk, vanilla, and strawberry puree; set aside.

In the bowl of an electric mixer fitted with the paddle attachment, cream butter on medium-high speed, until light and fluffy. Gradually add sugar and continue to beat until well combined and fluffy. Reduce the mixer speed to medium and slowly add egg and egg whites until just blended.

With the mixer on low, slowly add half the flour mixture; mix until just blended. Add the milk mixture; mix until just blended. Slowly add remaining flour mixture, scraping down sides of the bowl with a spatula, as necessary, until just blended.

Divide batter evenly among prepared muffin cups. Transfer muffin tin to oven and bake until tops are just dry to the touch, 22 to 25 minutes. Transfer muffin tin to a wire rack and let cupcakes cool completely in tin before icing.

Icing Ingredients:

Makes enough for 1 dozen cupcakes.

1/2 cup whole frozen strawberries, thawed

1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, firm and slightly cold

Pinch of coarse salt

3 1/2 cups confectioners' sugar, sifted

1/2 teaspoon pure vanilla extract


Place strawberries in the bowl of a small food processor; process until pureed. In the bowl of an electric mixer fitted with the paddle attachment, beat together butter and salt on medium speed until light and fluffy. Reduce mixer speed and slowly add confectioners' sugar; beat until well combined. Add vanilla and 3 tablespoons strawberry puree (save any remaining strawberry puree for another use); mix until just blended. Do not overmix or frosting will incorporate too much air. Frosting consistency should be dense and creamy, like ice cream


I know i havent updated my blog in a while but i have been bust wrapping up the summer. I am going to start my 21 day fast tommorow and will try to update everyday or maybe weekly (which is more like).

Somebody tell me something Good

Thursday, September 9, 2010

54 affirmations celebrating your power

With the start of the fast every morning i will seek communication spirit to spirit i will talk, recite my confession (42 laws of maat) and say these affirmations i will attempt to do this on a daily basis for the purpose of strengthening my relationship with my Father/Mother Creator and stregthening myself.

Sometimes it is good to have a few simple affirmations to tell yourself when things look bleak and when your spirit does not feel uplifted. The power of words are tremendous upon the body, the mind, and the soul, so I ask you all to read these words have the will to do each one of these things well, and to not feel bad on the days that you don't. Just keep moving, keep striving, and keep reaching!

The will of a woman is a never ending list, it goes on and on, for the will of a woman is strong and affirming!

1.I will take care of myself
2.I will love my inner being
3.I will not doubt myself
4.I will go the extra mile
5.I will trust my first instinct
6.I will not fear failure
7.I will pamper myself
8.I will clean as I go
9.I will learn from my mistakes
10.I will not be afraid to ask for help
11.I will try new things
12.I will overcome my weakness
13.I will share my rewards
14.I will teach wisdom
15.I will create within my home
16.I will never stop looking for love
17.I will never stop giving love
18.I will not be afraid
19.I will never stop learning
20.I will say that I am beautiful
21.I will tell other women that they are beautiful
22.I will work through the pain
23.I will not hold regrets
24.I will get plenty of beauty sleep
25.I will no longer feel guilty
26.I will take care of my spirit
27.I will laugh until the end
28.I will write down my experiences
29.I will offer wise advice
30.I will exercise more than often
31.I will not store negative energy
32.I will not surround myself with negative people
33.I will love my natural beauty
34.I will not take everything so serious
35.I will listen carefully
36.I will explain myself eloquently
37.I will love my loved ones
38.I will explore many cultures
39.I will stand up for what I believe in
40.I will never feel worthless
41.I will never carry guilt
42.I will make time for me
43.I will nurture nature
44.I will accept change
45.I will give with no thought of receiving
46.I will drink plenty of water
47.I will make love intensely
48.I will not fear death
49.I will stay active
50.I will not procrastinate
51.I will never give up on my dreams
52.I will keep a to-do-list
53.I will not feel bad if I do not accomplish every task & goal
54.I will have the will to be me! BlogBooster-The most productive way for mobile blogging. BlogBooster is a multi-service blog editor for iPhone, Android, WebOs and your desktop

Random thoughts

“With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.” BlogBooster-The most productive way for mobile blogging. BlogBooster is a multi-service blog editor for iPhone, Android, WebOs and your desktop

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Dear Myself

I have been writing on this blog for a short time not knowing which direction to take and what to focus on. I have been using this as sort of a diary of things i found or information i want to keep with a place to always refer back to.

But now i have a direction and a new course i would like to take, i want someone to go along and share my experiences with. Recently i believed i wanted to be enlightened and brought into conciousness and though i know some wont understand i am going to take the path of knowledge of thyself "know thyself!"

I was laying in bed and one thought came into my concious, Religion is a man made separation of one spirit to another, and isnt that a sin. Sin to seperate onself from another becuase of a belief.

I have always believed in Christianity and that can not be uprooted but I have to open my eyes to who i really am. Because i have a vagina i am less than or not equal to a man. We call father God but where is Mother God. I am made in an image of God and he created me too, God is in me I am a Goddess. I must act accordingly.

When I pushed my son from my vagina it was the most eye opening experience of my life. I am powerful I am a healer a creator I am a Goddess.

For so long I took what people said about things without researching. But that is different it is time, My time to come into My truth!

When it came to find which direction do I go to find the information so many books and ideas come my way. Father/Mother God Creator will lead me.

First step: I must fast and cleanse my system.  This is sooo hard for me to do but i must discipline my flesh. I am going to PHilly on the 15th to the 18th and then i will start my fast HARD.

Im looking for some true Woman to go with me. I am also following Sacred Woman by  Queen Afua it is a very good book if someone would like to travel with me to enlightenment.

Saturday, September 4, 2010

13 top contaminated fruits and veggies

Buy these items Organic only

Bell peppers
Spinich BlogBooster-The most productive way for mobile blogging. BlogBooster is a multi-service blog editor for iPhone, Android, WebOs and your desktop

Thursday, September 2, 2010

Grey Eyeshadow

Im feeling that i wonder how that would look on my skin color!

French Toast Kebabs with blueberry sauce


8 large eggs, lightly beaten                    

2/3 cup 1% buttermilk

Pinch of salt

1/4 teaspoon vanilla extract

1 loaf (one-pound) unsliced dense white bread (such as pullman), crusts removed and cut into 1-inch cubes

4 tablespoons unsalted butter

1/2 pint fresh blueberries

1/2 pint fresh raspberries

2 bananas, sliced

1 teaspoon confectioner's sugar

Blueberry sauce, for serving


1.Preheat oven to 250 degrees. Place a rimmed baking sheet in the oven to warm. In a medium bowl, whisk together eggs, buttermilk, salt, and vanilla. Stir in bread.

2.In a large saute pan set over medium heat, melt 2 tablespoons butter. Place half of the bread mixture in pan; cook, turning occasionally with tongs, until browned on all sides. To keep warm, transfer to the oven. Cook remaining bread in the remaining 2 tablespoons butter as before.

3.Thread bread cubes onto skewers alternating with blueberries, raspberries, and banana slices. Dust skewers lightly with confectioner's sugar. Serve drizzled with blueberry syrup.

Serves 4.


2 cups (two 5-ounce packages) blueberries

1/4 cup sugar

1 tablespoon fresh lemon juice


Blueberry Sauce                  
1.In a medium saucepan, combine blueberries with sugar and fresh lemon juice. Bring to a boil; reduce to a simmer, and cook until most of the berries have burst, 8 to 10 minutes.

Makes about 1-1/2 cups.


Wednesday, September 1, 2010

A lesson in Sushi

Rainbow Roll

Nori, rice, avocado, surimi, plus a variety of raw fish arranged on top

476 calories

16 g fat
33 g protein
6 g fiber
50 g carbohydrates

Higher in calories than most rolls you’ll find, but loaded as this is with substantial portions of myriad raw fish, most of those calories are the good kind. Rainbow rolls are typically large, so a single order and a bowl of miso soup make a filling dinner.

Nori, rice, cucumber

136 calories

0 g fat
6 g protein
3.5 g fiber
30 g carbohydrates

It’s hard to go wrong with cucumbers and seaweed. Though not a nutritional powerhouse, cucumbers are a low-calorie delivery system for vitamins A and C, fiber, and silica, a compound that has been shown to foster healthy skin.

Avocado Roll

Nori, rice, avocado

140 calories

5.5 g fat

2 g protein

6 g fiber

28 g carbohydrates

Most of the calories in this vegetarian roll come from healthy monounsaturated fats. Avocado makes a great addition to any roll, since a sushi-size portion also contains about 3 grams of fiber.

Tuna Roll

Nori, rice, tuna

184 calories

2 g fat
24 g protein
3.5 g fiber
27 g carbohydrates

More than half of the calories in this simple, classic roll come from protein, making it a great light meal or a snack with substance.

California Roll

Nori, rice, avocado, surimi

255 calories

7 g fat
9 g protein
6 g fiber
38 g carbohydrates

The ubiquitous fusion roll is a great beginner’s foray into the potential of sushi, since there’s no raw fish involved. There are also no real healthy fats either (aside from the avocado, of course), since the fake crab (made from a variety of processed and compressed fish) has 1⁄15 the amount of omega-3s as the real stuff.

Spicy Tuna Roll
Nori, rice, tuna, mayo, chili sauce

290 calories

11 g fat
24 g protein
3.5 g fiber
26 g carbohydrates

In the world of sushi, “spicy” means a spoonful of mayo spiked with an Asian chili sauce. The calorie counts can climb higher than this, depending on how heavy a hand the sushi chef has with the spicy stuff. Either way, you’re better off satisfying your need for heat with a touch of wasabi.

Philadelphia Roll

Nori, rice, salmon, cream cheese, cucumber

290 calories

12 g fat (5 g saturated)
14 g protein
2 g fiber
28 g carbohydrates

Just like the mayo adds empty calories to an otherwise reliable spicy tuna roll, cream cheese blankets perfectly fine salmon and cucumber with an unnecessary measure of fat.

Salmon and Avocado Roll

Nori, rice, salmon, avocado

304 calories

8.5 g fat
13 g protein
6 g fiber
42 g carbohydrates

High in calories, but nearly all of those calories come from the one-two punch of healthy fats found in the salmon and the avocado.

                                                        Eel and Avocado Roll

Nori, rice, avocado, eel

372 calories

17 g fat
20 g protein
6 g fiber
31 g carbohydrates

Eel brings a solid helping of omega-3s to the sushi bar, but unfortunately, it’s almost always covered in a gloppy, sugary brown sauce that masks both the nutrition and the delicate natural flavor of this wily sea creature. If you opt for this roll, make it your only one of the night.

Shrimp Tempura Roll

Nori, rice, shrimp, tempura batter, oil for frying

508 calories

21 g fat
20 g protein
4.5 g fiber
64 g carbohydrates

Why take a perfectly good piece of lean shrimp and ruin it with thick batter and a hot oil bath? The joy of fried food—the crunch—is snuffed out by the moist rice, so this one doesn’t make sense from either a flavor or a nutritional perspective.

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

6 Foods for Healthy Skin


Salmon is an ideal food for many reasons, but as far as your skin’s concerned, there’s only one that matters: It’s among the world’s greatest sources of omega-3 fatty acids. Those are the essential fats that, along with bolstering the cognitive powers of your brain, concentrate in the walls of your epidermal cells to help lock in moisture. Plus, in one study, researchers supplemented two groups of mice with either omega-3 or omega-6 fats. After two weeks, the skin of the omega-3-fed group exhibited a 20 percent faster recovery rate from exposure to ultraviolet light. That gives salmon two crucial skin boons: keeping your skin from looking dry and helping it battle the dangers of excessive sunlight.
Other omega-3 foods: sardines, walnuts, flaxseed


Carrots are teeming with tiny orange pigments called beta-carotene, and when you ingest those pigments, you’re inviting them to nestle into your skin, fill in blotches, and give you a healthy glow. And what’s more, research shows that this can actually help prevent premature aging from sun damage. But is the accumulation of orange in your skin going to make you look like an extra from Jersey Shore? Well, hopefully not. But eating excessive loads of carotene-rich foods can lead to a condition called carotenosis, wherein your skin stops looking healthy and starts looking, well, orange. But the conditions is rare, so unless you notice yourself turning into a prison jumpsuit, feel free to chow down.

Other beta-carotene foods: sweet potatoes, red bell peppers, red grapefruit


One study published by The Journal of the American College of Nutrition found that people with higher intakes of olive oil had fewer wrinkles than people with higher intakes of butter. The reason: Butter is loaded with saturated fat, while olive oil is rich in monounsaturates, the same essential fats that make up more than 50% of the calories in an avocado. So why eat avocado over olive oil? Both are good, but avocados have the added bonus of B vitamins, which also help to keep your skin looking vibrant and smooth.

Other monounsaturated-fat foods: olive oil, almonds, peanut butter


Legumes, to be more precise. This is the class of plants that includes black beans, chickpeas, lentils, soybeans, and peanuts. And how do these puny pods protect your face? By smoothing out wrinkles. Australian researchers analyzed the diets of more than 400 elderly men and women and found that high intakes of legumes—alongside vegetables and healthy fats—resulted in 20% fewer wrinkles over time. The effect is likely a result of isoflavones—potent antioxidants—concentrated in the beans.

Other isoflavone-rich foods: alfalfa, tempeh, tofu


Besides providing protection from heart attack and stroke, antioxidants called polyphenols found in grapes can also help keep middle-aged skin from sagging. That’s because polyphenols improve skin’s elasticity by strengthening collagen, the primary protein in skin’s innermost layer.

Other polyphenol-rich foods: grape juice, blueberries


Okay, it’s not as fun to drink as wine, but water is the strongest weapon you have against lifeless skin. That’s why they call it “moisturizing”—because you’re trying to lock moisture, aka water, into your skin. To put it broadly, all the body’s processes rely on hydration, so if you’re not sipping throughout the day, you’re likely to have a slower metabolism, groggier head, and, yes, drier skin. One study suggested that it takes a mere half-liter of water to create a measurable increase in the capillary blood flow to your body’s outer layer. That’s just over 16 ounces. Try doing that a few times a day and you’ll have a face like a baby’s bottom in no time.
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Pineapple, Mango, and Jalapeno Salsa

Pineapple, Mango, and Jalapeno Salsa
From Sarah Kerr

1/2 pineapple, cut into 1/4 inch cubes
1 mango, cut into 1/4 inch cubes
1-2 medium green jalapenos (adjust heat amount to your personal taste), small dice
1 1/2-2 small red onions, small dice
1 red bell pepper, small dice
2-3 large tomatoes, small dice
2-3 ripe but firm avocados, diced
1/2 bunch cilantro, rinsed and chopped
salt and freshly ground black pepper


Combine all of the ingredients in a large bowl. Mix gently to avoid mashing the avocados and fruit. Add salt and pepper to taste.
Refrigerate to chill the salsa. The acidic juice from the pineapple will keep all the ingredients fresh and colorful. Serve with tortilla chips or pita chips.
Makes about 4 cups.

Liquid Valium

1 part Bourbon
1 part Peach Schnapps
Splash Cranberry Juice
Splash Orange Juice

Combine all ingredients in cocktail shaker with ice. Shake to blend and chill. Strain into chilled cocktail glass, two shot glasses or in a rocks glass over fresh ice.

Friday, August 6, 2010

Time to change my bedroom

Since i have to stay in the house one more year i am going to redecorate my rooms or i will go insane. i have to merge my modern love for his traditional sense. Here are some of my inspirations. i am feeling beiges heavy covers and very soft plush fabrics and heavy curtains.

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Body Shaper

I will admit it.... I am 32 and I need a body shaper. I remember back in the day, okay i dont remember, but i saw in movies and heard my grandmother talk about those times. That woman had style and a sort of sophisticated fashion sense. They wore slips, gurdles, and undergarments.

Well my problem areas are my tummy. i am a slim athletic built person and when extra weight comes it comes to my mid section and rear end (which I have no complaints there). any way i have found a few items that i am going to have to purchase.

SPANX: Hide & Sleek Body Smoothing Camisole Smoothes the midriff, with a double layer along the bust for support. The search for the perfect undershirt is over. The SPANX® Hide & Sleek Body Smoothing Cami offers coverage from sheer fabrics and tummy slimming all at once.  $42.00

Style #050

Light body-shaping camisole

Constructed of moisture-wicking microfiber

Double layer compression starts below the bust

Smoothes and firms the midriff

Creates a smooth line underneath your clothing

Higher back to avoid visible lumps or bulges

Slick yarns won’t cling to clothes

Lightweight stitching on straps for comfort

Tucks into pants and skirts for an invisible look
SPANX: Hide & Sleek Hi-Rise Panty $42.00
 Firm smoothing all the way up to the bra line! Smooth, seam-free fabric and nonbinding leg for a perfect silhouette under clothes. Ultra-sleek, soft fabric provides double layer compression to smooth and firm.

Style #140

Full coverage, high-waisted brief

Shimmering, stretch microfiber

Provides light control

Double layer compression smoothes tummy and rear

Moisture-wicking fabric for a cool, dry feel

Silicone elastic waistband maximizes comfort

Creates a smooth line underneath your clothing

No visible panty lines

Cotton gusset

Tagless for comfort
  Corselette Latex Body Shaper  $72.00

Va Bien: Ultra-Lift Low Plunge Body Briefer. $80.00                                                                                                                                                                                 Give your bust a boost and your tummy a tuck with this low-back, firm-control shaper. Patented Ultra-Lift underwire cups enhance cleavage. It even comes equipped with convertible bra straps!

Style #1500

Firm control, low back body shaper

Shimmery microfiber

Sheer mesh detail on front

Patented Ultra-Lift boned cups for shape and support

Side boning provides additional shaping

Double-lined front panel for extra tummy control

Converts to criss-cross or halter

Satin bow on plunging neckline

Fully adjustable straps

Cotton panel

Convenient hook and eye gusset

No closure - step into it like a bathing suit

European cup sizes. See size chart for U.S. conversion.

Flexees: Fat-Free Dressing Boyshorts $26.00 
Style #3017

Firm control boyshorts

Stretch nylon

Tummy flattening hidden panel

Cotton gusset

Covered elastic waistband
All of these things can be purchased at barenecessities.
P.S. you know what is funny that all of these models are skinny  and they do not need a damn shaper

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