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I have a great personality i believe. i am funny in my own way and very loyal to my friends. I am a natural sista 3C/4A hair and am challenging myself to have healthy hair and healthy skin. I am not a length crazy person but i am attempting to grow my hair off as long as i can then i am going to cut it off like Halle Berry. I love to cook so sometimes i will post recipes. My loves are clothes, skin, makeup, shoes, food, alcohal, hair, and my son. LOL! Stay Tuned!

Sunday, June 27, 2010

Bre Scullark my hair inspiration

30 Ways To Be Happy, Healthy, and Wise

Copied this from someone's blog and they got this from Essence Magazine. Thought this will help everyone
 in thier lives.

  1.  I maintain a healthy weight with little effort
  2.  My retirement is secure.
  3.  I have enough wealth to pass on.
  4.  I have found my soul mate, who cherishes me.
  5.  I embrace and enjoy my sexuality.
  6.  I relish adventures and special moments.
  7.  I love my work; it enriches others.
  8.  I own a successful business.
  9.  I take care of my body, and it takes care of me.
  10.  I radiate health, thanks to natural foods.
  11.  I am learning all that I need to know.
  12.  My credit is excellent, and I am debt-free.
  13.  I am free of drugs and nicotine.
  14.  I am free of drama, pain and regret.
  15.  I drink moderately in good spirits, or not at all.
  16.  I've got stamina, thanks to regular activity.
  17.  I work out to keep my body strong and supple.
  18.  I forgive all who have hurt or betrayed me.
  19.  I own a beautiful and love-filled home.
  20.  I have rainy-day funds, insurance and a will (
  21.  I sleep peacefully and awaken energized.
  22.  I embrace new experiences.
  23.  I look good and receive compliments daily.
  24.  My family and friends love and nourish me.
  25.  My neighbors and I look out for one another.
  26.  My time and talents strengthen others.
  27.  Within my village, I am raising a child.
  28.  I make a difference in this world.
  29.  I am protected and blessed.
  30.  I love my life.

Are any of you down for this challenge? Let me know!


From Scott Baird of 15 Romolo

lime wedge
3/4 ounce fresh-squeezed lime juice
1 ounce orange liquor (I used Combier)
2 ounces silver tequila (I used Corzo)


Pour salt onto a shallow plate or bowl. Wet the rim of a glass with the lime wedge. Dip into the salt. Fill the glass with ice.
Combine the lime juice, orange liquor, and tequila in a cocktail shaker. Fill with ice and shake hard for 45 seconds.
Strain into the prepared salt-rimmed glass and enjoy!
Makes 1 drink.

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Pomegranate Mango Guacamole

Pomegranate Mango Guacamole
From Gourmet

3 ripe avocados
1/2 white onion, finely chopped
1 serrano chili, finely chopped, including seeds
1 lime, juiced
1/2 cup pomegranate seeds
3/4 cup diced peeled mango
1/2 cup chopped cilantro
1 1/4 teaspoon coarse salt


Cut the mango in half lengthwise. With a small sharp knife score the flesh both horizontally and vertically. Pushing on the skin of the mango, flip it inside out and cut off the flesh from the skin.

To remove the pomegranate seeds, cut the pomegranate in half and submerge in a large bowl of water then gently peel to remove all of the seeds.
Halve, pit, and peel avocados. Coarsely mash in a bowl. Stir in onion, chiles, 1/4 cup lime juice, and 1 1/4 teaspoons salt, then fold in pomegranate seeds, mango, and cilantro. Season with salt and additional lime juice.

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Let your food be your medicine and your medicine be your food

My Daily Prayer

Dear Father,

Please forgive me father for I have sinned. I  have ingested unnatural food i have indulged in to much alcohal and not taken care of my body as you have commanded. Father my focus is off I havent read your Word, haven't spoken with my spirit or in tongue. my self control is non existant. i havent been to church. i attempt to make decisions and choices on my own with asking and waiting for your direction.

i fight anger with anger i havent been a godly woman in the way i have handled situations.

today i am asking for your help to maintain self control, to clear my mind, focus on my god called position, maintain my queendom of a goddess, to look towards goodly things only, seperate me from the evil things and people.

To love unconditionally, to speak kindly, to read the word daily, to stay awake and be prepared for the time has come for your arrival.

i love you heavenly father

Friday, June 18, 2010

Hair Update

i have a confession to make. I permed my hair  and it was such a big mistake. so i have cut my hair off all over again. Not a short fro but like rihanna all short in the back and long in the front. i am going to transition my front out.

I feel such like a traitor. but what i do know is that short hair is just better for me i think it is more sexy but i still love my long hair sista's.

shout out to mop top maven.

i will post pics but i am so unphotogenic

Lost In Translation

so for the past couple of days i turned my television off and just have been reading. reading mostly love stories. I dont know if it is because its my time of the month. but i hate television and am loving the peace and quiet.

the only real problem is i havent had a desire to pick up my bible. i bought a new one, read the bible in 90 days but i cant stay focused.

im in such a stand still rut. I have p90X and i havent even started it yet. havent read my bible, and havent put one foot over the other to just do what i need to do  HO HUM

37 things to never apologize for

1. Never apologize for acting on your instincts. Listening to your body – then taking action on what you hear – is the hallmark of heroic people.

2. Never apologize for all the tears you’ve cried. Crying cleanses the soul. Shoot for once a month. Even if it’s just a brief mist at a tender moment in a sad movie.

3. Never apologize for anything in your portfolio. If you feel the need to do so, it probably doesn’t belong in your portfolio in the first place.

4. Never apologize for asking for what you need. The answer to every question you DON’T ask is always no.

5. Never apologize for asking questions. When you stop asking questions, you don’t just run out of answers – you run out of hope.

6. Never apologize for asserting yourself. The word “assert” comes from the Latin asserere, which means, “to claim, maintain or affirm.” And that’s exactly what you’re entitled to: Your opinion. Your belief. Your say. Let nobody take it away from you.

7. Never apologize for being a health nut. Next time someone says, “What are you, on a diet or something?” look them straight in the eye and say, “Yeah – you got a problem with that?” Then, when they back down, you go right back to eating your tofu.

8. Never apologize for being a newbie. Everyone great chess master was once a beginner.

9. Never apologize for being early for an appointment. In the history of Corporate America, no employee has ever been fired for consistently arriving ten minutes early to every meeting.

10. Never apologize for being funny. The world is too damn serious. We need you. Seriously.

11. Never apologize for being human. Once you do, you’re no longer human – you’re a cyborg.

12. Never apologize for being passionate. Unless you’re passionate about stabbing strangers with broken Coke bottles.

13. Never apologize for being smart. That’s the ONE thing the government, the media (and every other entity that’s trying to control you) is terrified of: Smart people who take action. Be one of those people.

14. Never apologize for being the age that you are. It’s just a number. “A chicken ain’t nothing but a bird,” as my Grandpa likes to say.

15. Never apologize for breaking a rule that isn’t really a rule. Be proud of yourself for being a rule breaker. Then go break another one.

16. Never apologize for calling bullshit on someone. Especially when nobody else is the room is going to do it and this person REALLY needs to be taken to task.

17. Never apologize for demanding respect. If you’ve demonstrated that you deserve respect by giving it to others first, you’re good to go.

18. Never apologize for disagreeing. Especially if you do so respectfully. On the other hand, if you’re disagreeing for the sake of disagreeing, or because of your pathological need to be right, that’s a different story.

19. Never apologize for expressing yourself. That’s all “leadership” is: The full, free expression of your truth. Don’t say you’re sorry for that.

20. Never apologize for falling in love. Your heart’s calling the shots.

21. Never apologize for falling OUT of love. Your heart’s still calling the shots – even when you throw up an air ball.

22. Never apologize for getting something off your chest. That which you suppress will find a home in your body. And then it will trash the place.

23. Never apologize for giving it your best shot. As my Grandpa also reminds me, “You do the best you can with as many as you can.”

24. Never apologize for growing up privileged. As long as you scrap the entitlement attitude, remain grateful for everything you’ve ever been given and respect the life situation of those who are less fortunate, it’s all good.

25. Never apologize for having an overabundance of love in your life. Instead, circulate what you’ve got. Pay it forward. Share it. People need it. Especially St. Louis Rams fans. God we suck.

26. Never apologize for lack of experience. Instead, share your Learning Plan; demonstrate your dedication to lifelong learning and practice becoming the world’s expert at learning from your experiences.

27. Never apologize for lack of information. Ignorance is acceptable. Staying ignorant, however, is stupid.

28. Never apologize for liking stupid movies. Movie snobs annoy me. Some of my favorite movies are among the most ridiculous films ever made. So I love Road House. Sue me.

29. Never apologize for living your truth. Few things in the world are more important.

30. Never apologize for looking out for yourself. Self-preservation is a primary driver of human behavior. It’s how we’re wired.

31. Never apologize for loving yourself. If you do, you probably don’t love yourself as much as you thought.

32. Never apologize for making a decision from the heart. Remember: It’s not thee truth – it’s YOUR truth.

33. Never apologize for needing alone time. Solitude is soil. Solitude is medicine. And if you don’t get your fix every day, your life will suffer.

34. Never apologize for needing to use the bathroom. Yesterday a girl in my yoga class walked out of the room and actually said to the teacher, “I have to pee, I’m SO sorry.” Unbelievable.

35. Never apologize for not being there when someone called. You have a life, too. People can’t expect you to wait eagerly by the phone all hours of the day.

36. Never apologize for not embracing someone else’s agenda. Especially if that agenda robs you of your true talent.

37. Never apologize for occasional absentmindedness. Everyone’s brain farts.

Saturday, June 12, 2010

Mint Julep

Mint Juleps for a Crowd
Adapted from Essentially Lilly: A Guide to Colorful Entertaining by Lilly Pulitzer


4 cups sugar
2 cups water
1 ounce (1 bunch) mint leaves, plus another additional bunch, for serving
Kentucky bourbon, such as Maker's Mark
Crushed ice


Stir sugar and water in a heavy medium saucepan over medium heat until sugar dissolves. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat to simmer gently for 10 minutes. Place 1 ounce fresh mint leaves into large bowl; pour hot syrup over leaves. Let cool to room temperature, then cover and refrigerate overnight.
Using a slotted spoon, remove mint leaves from syrup and discard mint. Pour mint syrup into large pitcher. Cover and refrigerate until ready to serve.
Set out pitcher of mint syrup, bourbon, and crushed ice. Arrange additional mint sprigs in a bud vase with water to keep them fresh. Allow guests to assemble their own cocktails, adjusting measurements to suit their own preferences. In general, fill glasses with crushed ice and add approximately 1/4 cup bourbon and 2 tablespoons mint syrup, then add as many mint leaves as desired and stir to combine. Garnish with a sprig of mint and enjoy.
Serves 12.

Friday, June 11, 2010


Sooo me and my girls were talking about men of course. and recently boyfriends or husbands have opened there mouths and freely talked about their dislikes in a very hurtful manner. especially weight. anywhere from u r fat and I'm not attracted to u, too hey get that stomach together.

soooo how far do u go with the image of a perfect girl. meaning are u expected to look the same always? when you are told something like that do you be come obsessed or motivated to change?

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

dig it

Dig it

25 Things you should know about Other People

1. Most people hide their suffering better than you think, you pass dozens of people a day on the street without any idea how well they’re wearing their tragedies.

2. People’s names are the sweetest sounds they hear. You should make a point of being good at learning and using them.
3. People love to spread their misery around, but not as much as they enjoy being lifted out of it.

4. Being young is not in and of itself an achievement. Neither is being beautiful. But people often treat you as if they are.

5. For a lot of people, music is a reflection of who they are and their relationship to life. Remember that before insulting someone’s favorite band.

6. The Golden Age never existed. People are always trying to get back to a time when things were simpler and better. The world was a far more dangerous place fifty years ago, especially if you were black or a woman or gay or diagnosed with cancer.

7. Most people, whatever their choice of profession, feel like complete novices that are about to be found out as frauds and fakers.

8. Most people love quite helplessly, despite what they would have you believe.

9. Show me the most beautiful woman in the world, and I’ll show you a man who’s bored with taking her to bed. Show me the most devoted husband, and I’ll show you a woman who feels that he’s just not doing enough. A lot of people are never satisfied because…

10. Most people have no idea what they want out of life, let alone how to get it. Most others are still waiting for someone to give them permission.

11. Whatever it is about yourself that you’re trying to hide, it’s usually the first thing someone else notices about you.

12. You should call your mother and tell her you love her. Like most women who decide to marry and have children or help take care of a dying parent, she probably sacrificed a lot of her dreams to be there for you, and she wishes that you appreciated her more for it. Susan Boyle represented this demographic powerfully, but for every one of her, was a woman like your mother who will never get that standing ovation.

13. If you tell a man about your problems, he assumes you want some sort of help or advice. If you tell a woman about your problems, she assumes you simply want a shoulder to cry on. Women rarely want to be told what to do about a problem, and men rarely want to be coddled through a hard time.

14. Creative people thrive on feedback. You can never give them enough of it, and you will endear yourselves to them mightily if you do it frequently, thoughtfully, and honestly. They understand far better than most think, the value of time.

15. For most people religion is a social commitment more than a spiritual one.

16. A lot of people who consider themselves intelligent can’t properly label all the states on a map, or all the countries in Europe, let alone Africa or the Middle East. Most couldn’t list off the ten commandments, five pilars, or the amendments of the Constitution, and feel that politics are too complicated to bother with understanding, let alone talking about.

17. A lot of Christians have never, and will never, read the Bible. Most of them will conduct their lives exactly as they would if they’d never attended a single church service. It is nearly impossible to tell a Christian from an atheist by their actions alone. Both Christians and atheists will probably find the previous statement offensive.

18. For nearly every crazy idea, you can find a fully credentialed scientist who will back it up.

19. People are more frequently kind and compassionate than they are fooled by our manipulations or lies.

20. Life often works in reverse. People treat strangers more politely than their family or friends. People will ask a friend’s band to play their party for free, will call their best girlfriend to come over and cut their hair without a thought to payment, but would never dream of calling a mechanic they found in the phonebook and asking them to donate their time and labor to fix a broken down car.

21. Everyone has done something they would be desperately embarrassed for anyone else to know about.

22. Never joke with a man about his sexual performance, and never joke with a woman about her appearance. No matter how much they make fun of these things in themselves, never, never do it for them. They may laugh along with you, but you’ve just driven a tiny needle into their brain.

23. Most women get married because they want to have a wedding, most men get married because they are ready to settle down with a woman for the rest of their lives. Women, statistically speaking are more likely to suffer clinical depression if married, and initiate upwards of 80% of all divorces citing irreconcilable differences. People expect a significant other to change their lives and make them happy without any conception of how this change will take place. Sort of like assuming a college degree is going to guarantee you security in life without ever thinking of how this can be practically possible. I call this the “If you build it, they will come” approach to romance and one out of every two times it ends in divorce.

24. Most people are worried they’re not having as much fun as they should be. This usually makes men cheat and women nag.

25. When you insult or offend someone, always admit it and apologize promptly, even if it wasn’t your intention or you had no idea. It is always better to be a penitent villain than to appear so socially inept as to not recognize when you’ve hurt the people around you. An evil genius is someone to bring to your side, a blundering fool is someone to keep as far away from you as possible.

Coconut Lime Daiquairi


1/2-ounce simple syrup, recipe follows

2 cups crushed ice, plus extra for chilling glass

2 ounces coconut rum

1-ounce freshly squeezed lime juice, strained of pulp


1.Make the simple syrup: Place 2 cups sugar and 1 cup water into a small saucepan over high heat. Bring to a boil. Decrease the heat to medium and cook, stirring occasionally, until the sugar is completely dissolved, approximately 3 to 5 minutes. Remove from the saucepan and allow to cool completely. Syrup can be stored in an airtight container in the refrigerator for up to a month. Makes 3 cups.

2.If your glass is not chilled, do so by placing some crushed ice in it and set it aside while you prepare the cocktail.

3.Place 2 cups of crushed ice into a cocktail shaker. Pour the coconut rum, lime juice, and simple syrup over the ice, cover, and shake well. Remove the ice from your serving glass and strain the drink into it. Serve immediately.

Makes one cocktail

Saturday, June 5, 2010

Faithfulness and Monogomy

So I was watching a movie on CoCo Chanel about the early years, and in the movie Chanel was in love with a married man. so i started thinking, even in the earliest years we can recall there was always a problem with monogamy.

is it unrealistic for us to be faithful? i am now married and though i see attractive people, i am completely satisfied sexually with my husband. matter of fact, i think dick is overrated. meaning in my 32 years on this earth i don't have to put added stress on my body for meaningless sex.

matter of fact i could be celibant if the situation presented itself (with the use of a toy). but the question is, am i being naive? does everyone cheat, and is it a matter of time before i think about cheating. are we just animals pretending to  be civilized when it is convenient for us.

tell me what u think



Thursday, June 3, 2010

Fried Green Tomatoes

Fried Green Tomatoes
From Katie Lee

1 cup cornmeal
1 cup all-purpose flour
1/2 tablespoon onion powder
1/2 tablespoon garlic powder
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
Pinch of cayenne pepper
4 large green tomatoes (like beefsteak, big boy, or celebrity), sliced 1/2-inch thick
1 cup buttermilk
1/2 cup vegetable oil
1 cup mayonnaise
3 tablespoons ketchup
2 tablespoons scallions, thinly sliced (about 1 scallion)
1 tablespoon apple cider vinegar
1 1/2 teaspoon dried mustard (like Coleman’s)
1 teaspoon hot sauce (like Tabasco), or to taste
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper


In a medium shallow bowl, mix cornmeal, flour, onion powder, garlic powder, salt, pepper, and cayenne. Fill a small shallow bowl with buttermilk. Place the bowls next to each other and next to the stove.
Heat the oil in a large heavy skillet (preferably cast iron) over medium-high heat. The oil should be hot but not smoking.
Dip the tomatoes in the buttermilk and then dredge in the cornmeal mixture. Fry the tomatoes, in batches if necessary, until the crust is golden brown and crunchy, about 4 to 5 minutes on each side. Drain on paper towels. Transfer the tomatoes to a serving plate and dollop some with remoulade or pass the remoulade alongside.
Serves 4-6.


Mix all ingredients together in a small bowl. Transfer to a serving bowl. Extra remoulade can be saved in the refrigerator in an air tight container for up to one week.

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